ashtree98 Posted December 25, 2024 Share Posted December 25, 2024 Advice on the end of my (25 F) VERY short relationship with this 28 M? Ok, as a disclaimer, I'm very clueless when it comes to dating. The relationships I do have are few and far between. I was seeing a guy for a total of 2 months and we went on 4 dates, which I know sounds insane. He basically was very serious very quickly. On our second date, he implied that I was his "future wife" and he wanted a photo of us to show to our future kids. He was VERY affectionate VERY quickly and I fell for it because it's not something I'm used to and it's a nice feeling. He called me his woman, told me he wants to have a baby, and implied that he would move to be closer to me (we live an hour away from each other). The fourth and last time I saw him, I spent the night at his. He seemed distant. It's like everything I said annoyed him or pissed him off. But, I don't know how much different I was than my usual self so I don't understand? Regardless, he was checked out and I tried to compensate by being playful and affectionate. In the morning, I drop him off to see his friend in the city. He tells me to text him when I get home. He doesn't respond to me all day and then, the next day he says that he doesn't think we're a match and we should stop seeing each other. I'm left feeling up and feeling like I did something wrong. What do you think happened here? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted December 25, 2024 Share Posted December 25, 2024 You ignored a gigantic red flag, and it predictably backfired. Never trust a person who talks about great love and marriage and future kids and alike after such a short time. This is not “being serious” at all. On the contrary, this is a sign of immaturity, weakness, insecurity, and a bunch of other problems such as neediness, control issues, selfishness, and whatnot. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ashtree98 Posted December 25, 2024 Author Share Posted December 25, 2024 3 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: You ignored a gigantic red flag, and it predictably backfired. Never trust a person who talks about great love and marriage and future kids and alike after such a short time. This is not “being serious” at all. On the contrary, this is a sign of immaturity, weakness, insecurity, and a bunch of other problems such as neediness, control issues, selfishness, and whatnot. Thank you for your honesty. I think I was a little too desperate for love and still am a bit even after that. I have a lot of hurt in my past and wanted to believe in a Prince Charming. But, it’s okay, I will try to learn from it as much as I can. Happy holidays! Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted December 25, 2024 Share Posted December 25, 2024 3 minutes ago, ashtree98 said: Thank you for your honesty. I think I was a little too desperate for love and still am a bit even after that. I have a lot of hurt in my past and wanted to believe in a Prince Charming. But, it’s okay, I will try to learn from it as much as I can. Happy holidays! Everyone has hurt in their past. Your own personalized Prince Charming does exist somewhere. This guy isn’t him. Move on and keep up hope. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ashtree98 Posted December 25, 2024 Author Share Posted December 25, 2024 2 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: Everyone has hurt in their past. Your own personalized Prince Charming does exist somewhere. This guy isn’t him. Move on and keep up hope. Thank you, I will try to keep the hope. 💗 Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyM Posted December 26, 2024 Share Posted December 26, 2024 I agree. he used you, and you took the bait You found out early at least Link to post Share on other sites
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