She is super into me but still VERY FRIENDLY with guy that slept with her 2 months ago

[Acacia98]

On 12/31/2024 at 5:20 PM, The_CROW said:

Even if I ditch her and never pay much attention to her again, how do I know the next girl I meet hasn't gone / isn't going through something like this (or worse)?

I'm a guy that's been all about sports and training since a kid, I was never interested in travelling the world or partying or meaningless sex with random women cause if I wasn't out with my friends or in school, I would be in the gym training. Ideally I would like a partner that hasn't been with dozens of men before me and is free from emotional trauma but this seems more and more unlikely tbh.

If you're living your life and learning the lessons you should from your experiences and other people's experiences, you will eventually learn how to read people, including the women you meet. That's how you will figure out which women are likely to make good relationship partners and which ones are not.

The fact that you only seem to meet women who are suffering from trauma and have been with dozens of men says something about you, I think. Maybe you're making certain kinds of choices that predispose you to meeting one type of woman. Or maybe you meet all sorts of women, but these are the only ones whom you notice because you are attracted to them in particular. 

[The_CROW]

19 hours ago, Acacia98 said:

If you're living your life and learning the lessons you should from your experiences and other people's experiences, you will eventually learn how to read people, including the women you meet. That's how you will figure out which women are likely to make good relationship partners and which ones are not.

To self analyze, I think I am aware that she isn't going to be a good relationship partner but she is one of the hottest women I have ever seen in person (and my exes are all very very good looking so for me to say this, it holds weight), where ever we've been together, men have hit on her. She can't go and pick up her mail without someone trying to flert with her.

I think her looks are clouding my judgement but deep down I know she isn't a good long term partner. I may have posted this thread hoping I would be convinced otherwise.

[Sony12]

I'm not entirely sure this story is real but it was an entertaining read. This sounds like that poster who comes onto this board and keeps dragging things along for pages and pages and pages. When it was stated that the OP was the national boxing champion my willingness to buy into the believability of it hit the tanks.

Edited January 2 by Sony12

[The_CROW]

2 hours ago, Sony12 said:

When it was stated that the OP was the national boxing champion my willingness to buy into the believability of it hit the tanks.

I've been coached by my dad since I was 8 years old and started training at a pro gym at 16. I said national not world lol idk why that would be hard to believe? Just wanted to add that as that's one of the things that really got her to actually take interest in me, as far as I believe. Clips of my fights were shared among the group and she's made several comments in regards to it. A woman that has incredible looks, wealth and career wouldn't want to go out with a skinny wimp that couldn't fight his way out of a paper bag

But in regards to the thread I think keeping my distance would be my best bet so yeah, that's that.

[Sony12]

56 minutes ago, The_CROW said:

I've been coached by my dad since I was 8 years old and started training at a pro gym at 16. I said national not world lol idk why that would be hard to believe? Just wanted to add that as that's one of the things that really got her to actually take interest in me, as far as I believe. Clips of my fights were shared among the group and she's made several comments in regards to it. A woman that has incredible looks, wealth and career wouldn't want to go out with a skinny wimp that couldn't fight his way out of a paper bag

But in regards to the thread I think keeping my distance would be my best bet so yeah, that's that.

Well if you are indeed telling the truth about everything you obviously don't have any trouble getting attention so why did you even start this thread. Just move on to some other lady.

[The_CROW]

12 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

Well if you are indeed telling the truth about everything you obviously don't have any trouble getting attention so why did you even start this thread. Just move on to some other lady.

That's exactly the thing cause if I didn't know all this, she would be exactly what I'm looking for. Like if I just met her somewhere else and never knew this history with this guy I would have thought this is the best girl I've ever met so far and would have been all over her to take her out and stuff.

Like how mature she is in regards to certain topics, I've asked her opinion on many things before stating mine and we think so alike it's ridiculous.

We want many of the same things in life, we also dislike many of the same things, she has been very honest with me about her past like her exes and her FWB relationships.

Same music, same shows, same movies, same places to go out to, same ideas about family and life moving forward like 10-20-30 years from now. We've actually easily had 100+ hours of deeper conversations where we've both agreed that we're super compatible.

(She is also genuinely extremely good looking so there's that too).

I was just looking for opinions if this is something I should pursue given her actions... But her acting this way really cools me off her cause it kind of puts a stain on this girl I thought was self respecting and tough and honorable and would never take s*** from anyone. Only to turn around and still be very cool with the guy that did this to her.

All I really wanted was for her and I to go out and spend time together and yes absolutely get physical, but that would not have been my only goal and I would have wanted something long term... I s*** the bed and waited too long to ask her out and Sam did. Even 2-3 weeks into dating Sam she would have went out with me but I just never tried something until it was too late.

Someone posted on the 1st page that I would be the 2nd option, not really, she would have went out with me if I didn't take 2 months to ask her out before he did.

I could definitely move on but yeah really wanted to share this all with others and get their opinions on the situation so yeah.

[Sony12]

30 minutes ago, The_CROW said:

That's exactly the thing cause if I didn't know all this, she would be exactly what I'm looking for. Like if I just met her somewhere else and never knew this history with this guy I would have thought this is the best girl I've ever met so far and would have been all over her to take her out and stuff.

Like how mature she is in regards to certain topics, I've asked her opinion on many things before stating mine and we think so alike it's ridiculous.

We want many of the same things in life, we also dislike many of the same things, she has been very honest with me about her past like her exes and her FWB relationships.

Same music, same shows, same movies, same places to go out to, same ideas about family and life moving forward like 10-20-30 years from now. We've actually easily had 100+ hours of deeper conversations where we've both agreed that we're super compatible.

(She is also genuinely extremely good looking so there's that too).

I was just looking for opinions if this is something I should pursue given her actions... But her acting this way really cools me off her cause it kind of puts a stain on this girl I thought was self respecting and tough and honorable and would never take s*** from anyone. Only to turn around and still be very cool with the guy that did this to her.

All I really wanted was for her and I to go out and spend time together and yes absolutely get physical, but that would not have been my only goal and I would have wanted something long term... I s*** the bed and waited too long to ask her out and Sam did. Even 2-3 weeks into dating Sam she would have went out with me but I just never tried something until it was too late.

Someone posted on the 1st page that I would be the 2nd option, not really, she would have went out with me if I didn't take 2 months to ask her out before he did.

I could definitely move on but yeah really wanted to share this all with others and get their opinions on the situation so yeah.

Well you have gotten plenty of feedback so I think you are good.

[Acacia98]

55 minutes ago, The_CROW said:

.. I s*** the bed and waited too long to ask her out and Sam did. Even 2-3 weeks into dating Sam she would have went out with me but I just never tried something until it was too late.

Someone posted on the 1st page that I would be the 2nd option, not really, she would have went out with me if I didn't take 2 months to ask her out before he did.

It's a good thing you waited too long to ask her out because now you know something about the type of person she is that you wouldn't otherwise have known.