Controlling exes

[Miss Wright]

What do I do or who do I seek help from. I have been dating this guy. Me and his friends had sexual relations first before I knew him than eventually as I didn’t know anyone else where I lived I spoke to the guy a few months after stopped talking to his friend. He knew me and the friend had a flings but Ntn serious. The guy wanted to f*** me before I even decided that I wanted to be with him right. Eventually I did something and got a tattoo with his intitials on me. I regret it now the only tattoo I regret. I thought this guy was different you know. He acted all sweet around family as he knew my mother before I knew of him through the place she worked. Things went left fast. When we had arguments he would tell me to go back to his friend and give him a blowy. Should I have stayed with him? He claimed that one a night out with his relative who saw the tattoo I gotten that my friend threatened them and said her sister would beat them up I sorted the issue and asked my friend infront of them. Before they decided to leave. He was controlling by he would show up unannounced at my mothers house. I was so emotionally stressed and angry I asked for him to leave my make cousin and my sister was present. He had taken my phone and mashed up my phone. When his friends are around he would pick fights with me just so they could hear me cursing on the phone, when my mother was on vacation he came over and I asked him to leave and he was refusing to leave my mothers room where we all were. I felt threatened and had to defend myself so I held his play station in my hand and asked again for him to leave my mothers room and house and to go home to his house. He still refused and told me I should hit him with the PlayStation and it happen was I wrong for defending myself in my own home? He told his mother what had happen but didn’t tell her that I had asked over and over for him to leave the premises. He also would threaten to show up at my church when we would argue and I wanted to break up and move on he then refused to leave out of my car and just sat in my car when I wanted him out so I could go home and carry on with my job he sat in the passenger seat smoking and deliberately ignoring me and defending myself I hitter him and then he left and told him mother again her having seen his eye. But I was unaware that his eye had bruises but ge didn’t once again tell her how I asked over and over and over for him to get out of my car. Was I wrong for defending myself should I have called the police instead knowing it was my car and my property and he refused to vacate my vehicle? He could accept being broken up and because he knew where I lived he would drive by my house at night and turn off his engine and let the moped drive by. You know when ur driving and you turn off ur lights and the moped can still travel without revenging it’s engine. He couldn’t accept us breaking up that he would take and climb the wall by my house and knock on my room door where I stayed even though I repeatedly ask for him to leave me alone and to move on. What can I do in situations like this when the guy doing all these things there is no friends or family Of his to witness him acting hostile like this towards me but they only overhear when we have arguments? What can I do? Do I get my family members who have witness these to inform his family members on my behalf so they can get him to stay away and move on from me?  

[basil67]

This is difficult to read, so I hope I understand the story. 

If something like this starts happening, you start writing down what they did, the date and the time.  If someone refuses to leave your house, call the police.  If they refuse to leave your car, call the police.   If they break into your house or land, call the police.  If someone tries to pick fights with you over the phone, block them. 

Lastly, if you're going to break up with someone who's acting crazy, do it in a public place where you can leave at any time.

Edited January 5 by basil67