question for fellows... well, anyone really.... about what seduction does for you....

[Tangerina]

I just got off of the phone with my BF... in the past in our relationship we really have had very few issues except for the fact that he was single for 2 years before we got together and in some ways it feels really wierd for him to be in a committed relationship again because he gets the fear about not being able to go after other girls...

 

It was interesting, we were talking tonight and he says "I have to confess my dream, it is that at some point we can go to school together somewhere and live together." (we are college students in different cities and only get to spend weekends together.) And then he tells me that I am so good for him and he is happy to be with me and he still has some issues around dealing with transitioning from being single, but they are his issues and it is getting a lot better and most of the time he just feels really happy to be with me though he still gets a little confused sometimes. I asked him what he feels confused about and he explained that in a way seducing or connecting with a girl was a way to prove his self worth to himself and it was really good to hear him explain it like that because I totally get it, I see this in many of my male friends that it is almost just a game where they prove to themself and to others that they live up to some cultural ideal. But here is the great part... he says "Having one girl like you a whole lot is much better than having a lot of girls like you a little." It was just really cool to hear him say all of that because I just get the sense that both conciously and subconciously he is excited and thankful to be with me.... how to explain it.... it feels good that he is willing to give up the more elusive but more immidiately exciting idea of being single because he is so psyched to be with me....

 

Guys, I was just curious if you feel this too, about how seduction is almost a proof of worth and how it feels to give up that sort of gratification for the different kind of gratification that you get from a relationship that is in good working order...