NuevoYorko Posted January 9 Share Posted January 9 3 minutes ago, tazz4 said: a guy who's like a 8+ out of 10 will pop up with a gorgeous face and stunning eyes. all he has to write is "hi I'm looking for a serious relationship" and he'll get 100s of likes. gorgeous women will appear in the comments who all want him. Exact same thing happens to women who are not looking so great in their profile pictures. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tazz4 Posted January 9 Author Share Posted January 9 10 minutes ago, NuevoYorko said: Exact same thing happens to women who are not looking so great in their profile pictures. yep. it makes it hard for me to believe that looks aren't at least the 2nd most important thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tazz4 Posted January 9 Author Share Posted January 9 4 hours ago, NuevoYorko said: Do you notice when you're out and about that there are hundreds of people paired up happily where neither one of them look like a movie star or a person on Instagram with a load of filters on all their photos? Maybe even people you know or who are in your family. Just normal looking people who happened to find each other attractive. Is that unacceptable for you? Do you require women who look like they belong in a magazine? I honestly don't know. My brain is confusing. I say they don't have to look like they're in a magazine. But then when I see a model looking guy getting attention from model looking women I get jealous and hate myself. I tried so hard to work out in the gym for over a year and barely saw results. I've been called "petite" on a few occasions. I thought it was all in my head. But if other people notice it I know it's not in my head. I was ripped apart on reddit when I posted something like this, but I also had some not so great views on women at the time so I guess I was asking for it Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted January 9 Share Posted January 9 2 hours ago, tazz4 said: I also have a MASSIVE issue with jealousy and envy.im part of a few dating fb pages. and here and there a guy who's like a 8+ out of 10 will pop up with a gorgeous face and stunning eyes. all he has to write is "hi I'm looking for a serious relationship" and he'll get 100s of likes. gorgeous women will appear in the comments who all want him. it just makes me feel like I have WAAAYY too much competition. I know how immature it is of me. It’s good that you understand that this is your problem and that it is very immature. If I were you, this would be the first thing I’d focus on solving. Envy is incredibly destructive and, above all, self-destructive. There are two types of envy. One is envy of true goodness. For example, you envy a great scientist or artist or a brave hero or a very selfless, saintly person. That kind of envy, though still potentially harmful, at least stems from the appreciation of true goodness. But then there is the materialistic envy, which is much worse. It’s when you envy what people possess instead of what they are or what they do. For example, you envy a rich person’s wealth rather than their skills and talents that allowed them to accumulate that wealth. Unfortunately, your envy is of this kind. Now, even this kind of envy is of two types: the envy of a real thing and the envy of a phantom, a chimaera, an illusion. Again, unfortunately, your envy is of the second type. You envy a physically attractive man who blurts out that he wants a serious relationship and as a result gets hundred of likes from physically attractive women. Don’t you understand that this superficial, shallow connection is not something you should be logically envious of, even disregarding the spiritual damage of envy? This is like envying an alpha baboon because he has a harem of female baboons, all with shiny red butts, ready to have sex with him simply because he beat up other baboons. Or like envying a sugar daddy who flaunts cash and has young girls with “model / pornstar bodies” flocking to him. Do you not see how demeaning such envy is to you, how much it degrades you in your own eyes for no reason whatsoever? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted January 9 Share Posted January 9 1 hour ago, tazz4 said: I honestly don't know. My brain is confusing. I say they don't have to look like they're in a magazine. But then when I see a model looking guy getting attention from model looking women I get jealous and hate myself. Precisely. It’s your jealousy, your envy, your hatred that are slowly destroying you. And it’s those negative emotions that make you unattractive to women, much more decidedly so than your looks. I don’t know any woman who likes envious men. I don’t know any woman who likes men that constantly compare themselves to others and whine “why am I not like that guy who has so many women, why do women like him and not me”. I’m seriously telling you, this is a major turn-off. I once asked my fiancée what types of men she finds most repelling. Her first “prize” in utter lack of attractiveness goes to superficially confident (actually deeply insecure) men who think that every woman wants to sleep with them. But the second most off-putting type of men for her are those who are overtly insecure, envious of other men’s success, and complain a lot. Please do your best to leave the ranks of that unappealing group as soon as you can. This should be your very first item on your “to do” list. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 9 Share Posted January 9 @Gebidozo to be fair, I wouldn't get past the underemployment and living at home. I probably wouldn't even get to discover the envious side Link to post Share on other sites
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