Should I tell my fiance that I am BiCurious?

[123456789]

Hello.

 

It seems to me that this board has helped many people, maybe it can help me.

 

I am totally in love with my fiance whom I have been with for 3 years. He knows everything about me, except my dirty little secret.

 

I am bi-curious. I like to look at lesbian porn, in fact, I love it. It turns me on more than regular porn.

 

Should I tell my fiance this, or will I just scare him off?

[Tony T]

YOU ASK: "Should I tell my fiance this, or will I just scare him off?"

 

If you feel you may be attracted to women as well as men, yes, you need to tell him right away...whether it scares him off or not.

 

This is extremely important information a man needs to know about a woman he is going to marry. It will be up to him to decide if his love for you can overpower how he may feel about this issue.

 

I personally don't know how I would react if a woman I was engaged to told me she was bicurious...or bisexual. But I do know that I would be pissed off enough to divorce her if I found out she withheld this or any other important information prior to the marriage. That would be fraud.

 

Get this out in the open now and face the consequences. The damage will be tiny compared to that which could occur if he finds out after the marriage. It all depends on him.

[Artlover]

Well, how curious are you? Lots of women fantasize about having sex with another woman. Some women even have rape fantasies. That doesn't mean that same woman wants to be raped in real life! Fantasies are a normal, natural part of human sexuality. It's nothing to feel ashamed of or make a big deal out of. If it's just a fantasy, most men could find that a real turn on.

 

However, if you feel like you could have romantic love with a woman; i.e. fall in love with a woman or have a relationship with a woman, I think you should discuss this with your partner asap. Or if you feel a strong desire to act on your fantasies, even if it's purely sexual experimentation, you should also let him know.

 

If the above doesn't apply, relax. You're human after all.

YOU ASK: "Should I tell my fiance this, or will I just scare him off?" If you feel you may be attracted to women as well as men, yes, you need to tell him right away...whether it scares him off or not. This is extremely important information a man needs to know about a woman he is going to marry. It will be up to him to decide if his love for you can overpower how he may feel about this issue. I personally don't know how I would react if a woman I was engaged to told me she was bicurious...or bisexual. But I do know that I would be pissed off enough to divorce her if I found out she withheld this or any other important information prior to the marriage. That would be fraud. Get this out in the open now and face the consequences. The damage will be tiny compared to that which could occur if he finds out after the marriage. It all depends on him.