alphamale Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 And you think acting like a prick to them is the only way you can do that? you just need to act like a prick somethimes. the rest of the time you need to be nice and sweet. Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 CB, some advice. Don't argue with alpha... I guarantee you he will NEVER bend from his view. A complete waste of time and energy. I've been there as well as others. And your *grandpa* post was priceless. Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 CB, some advice. Don't argue with alpha... I guarantee you he will NEVER bend from his view. A complete waste of time and energy. I've been there as well as others. /QUOTE] Maybe he will when he's a 60 year old guy and all he's getting are hot 19 year old blondes humping him for 6 months.... hang on.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author In Sync Posted January 9, 2006 Author Share Posted January 9, 2006 Alphamale, I think basically you are just being confrontational because you want to raise the ire of those on this thread who disagree with your take on mind games etc. Originally, my entire point and many get it..and I believe in truth you do as well, I merely pointed out that in during my coffee date Because It was lackluster it made me miss the good moments with the X. Of course he had horrible elements not just bad, but by no means was I missing that last night. Your definition of bad boy is more like a stereotype macho character in the movies. My "X" an English guy, who felt himself to be above any machismo and upperclass. And most people were beneathe him. He had no empathy for the working class and felt intellectually superior. Clearly from your writings you are not able to separate an abusive person's behavior and from the behavior of a 'bad boy'...His rantings and ravings and belittling were pathological signs of an NPD, yet at the same time before that side of him was reveal he was extremely charming easygoing fun and was by no means a bad boy. So your theory is rather reversed. As you see I was never atrracted to the N's pathological qualities in the early stages. That was well hidden, until he slowly revealed himself. I would never want that in my life again. But I wonder from your reactions and revelations about your treatment towards women...sounds full of anger. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 I would never want that in my life again. then go out with an open mind and meet and date other men and forget about the past. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Maybe he will when he's a 60 year old guy and all he's getting are hot 19 year old blondes humping him for 6 months.... hang on.... Ahhh. Chocolate boy.. Alpha DOES have a GF ... Do you ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author In Sync Posted January 9, 2006 Author Share Posted January 9, 2006 You just took a quote out of context to my entire point...and still make no sense. So now you've clarified what I've suspected. That you just want to be right about something even if you make no sense at all. Oooooookay... Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 You just took a quote out of context to my entire point...and still make no sense. So now you've clarified what I've suspected. That you just want to be right about something even if you make no sense at all. Oooooookay... ... I totally agree. And let's not forget that he IS a self-confessed abuser of women too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author In Sync Posted January 9, 2006 Author Share Posted January 9, 2006 ... I totally agree. And let's not forget that he IS a self-confessed abuser of women too. No wonder alphamale reminds me of having those twisted conversations I had with the N.... Jeeeezus, I thought I had deja vu going on for a sec! Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Ahhh. Chocolate boy.. Alpha DOES have a GF ... Do you ? Who he openly admits that he abuses!!!!!!!! What kind of twit goes back to an abusive relationship. Any normal woman would take a chocolate boy over an alpha. Alpha could never get the alphafemale with his attitude, plain and simple. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Who he openly admits that he abuses!!!!!!!! What kind of twit goes back to an abusive relationship. Any normal woman would take a chocolate boy over an alpha. Alpha could never get the alphafemale with his attitude, plain and simple. Hey... I'm not sticking up for his actions.. I'm merely pointing out that the person criticizing his methods does not have a GF and Alpha does.. Alpha's methods must be working for him.. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Maybe he will when he's a 60 year old guy He's not that far off Alpha's methods must be working for him.. Hey. Jeffrey Dahmer was able to charm people into going to his place for sex. Doesn't mean he was a desirable partner. Just because people are together in dysfunction doesn't mean dysfunction is the way to attract people Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Ahhh. Chocolate boy.. Alpha DOES have a GF ... Do you ? Not at the moment but I since I've only been single since October I'm taking time out through choice, I've never had trouble getting them though, have had several long-term serious relationships, and I don't make out I'm a "bad boy" so what's your point? I'm sure I could go out and "get a girlfriend" if I felt like I wanted one. Don't have much time or opportunity at the moment though, plus I'm sort of enjoying a bit of time out. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Who he openly admits that he abuses!!!!!!!! I also admit to being abused by women in the past. Big deal! What goes around comes around. Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 He's not that far off Hey. Jeffrey Dahmer was able to charm people into going to his place for sex. Doesn't mean he was a desirable partner. Just because people are together in dysfunction doesn't mean dysfunction is the way to attract people Very true, the opposite of a "bad boy" doesn't mean being a soft-touch and unmasculine. I've always been a good partner, my girlfriends have known not to mess me about and wouldn't dare cheat on me etc as they always had respect for me and knew they'd be out the door if I ever found out. I've had 6 serious relationships since I was 17, only one of them lost interest in me (the recent one) but that was probably as much to do with the fact that I also lost interest in her after a few months and was rather passive with her (despite having feelings for her). I've always been more successful in love when I put in as much as I take and have mutual respect and love, I have ended all my previous relationships yeah, but that's more to do with me being too career minded for love I guess, certainly not because I am not a "bad boy". Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 I also admit to being abused by women in the past. Big deal! What goes around comes around. Sure me too, my first girlfriend toughened me up, at the age of 17 I was a lap-dog who did anything for her, since her I learnt a valuable lesson. Now when I'm in a relationship I demand respect and honesty, if not then I'm out the door. My attitude is if a girl earns my respect and love I'll cherish her and treat her like a princess, if she disrespects me or loses my trust she's out the door, I might love her, but I love myself too. That and also having outside interests is good, make sure you also have other priorities in your life, but the time you have together is great (and valuable), that's how you get a woman interested, not by abusing her. Never failed for me in getting them attracted in the first stage. But if a girl expects me to play mind games to keep her interested, I couldn't be bothered, she can "lose interest" and then go onto the next guy and do the same and the next etc. I'm better off without that sort. Link to post Share on other sites
Author In Sync Posted January 9, 2006 Author Share Posted January 9, 2006 First..Guys let's get a grip! SO far the good thing about this thread is I've stopped thinking about a my dismal sacrificial coffee date, and I've stopped thinking about the X!!! So for what it's worth reading this debate and banter, it was worth writing about it because now I'm laughing..so to you ALL, I feel sooo MUCH better! :laugh: :laugh: Second, what's a definition of a bad boy. It sounds so high schoolish, you can't be serious that your debating this. Clearly you all recognize an abusive person from someone who is confident or stands up for himself. Is a woman attracted to a confident man..yes. It's Confident not Bad boy-ism. Does a woman enjoy being verbally abuse, or berated...No. Ask your mother sisters of gf's..ask them if those qualities appeal to them in a man. Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Second, what's a definition of a bad boy. It sounds so high schoolish, you can't be serious that your debating this. Clearly you all recognize an abusive person from someone who is confident or stands up for himself. Is a woman attracted to a confident man..yes. It's Confident not Bad boy-ism. Does a woman enjoy being verbally abuse, or berated...No. Ask your mother sisters of gf's..ask them if those qualities appeal to them in a man. Glad you're smiling again Yeah confidence is a turn on to women, a guy that stands up for himself and takes no crap, but on the other hand will make her feel special and loved. Simple as that, or have I just got lucky in the past? Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 RE: AlphaMale: "I beg to differ. Older women tend to go more for a balanced man but he must still be partially a "bad boy" to keep her interest." I'm not 25...(oh thank God!) -but I do like confident men. For me, whether he's a bad boy or not really depends on where, when, and how often he's a bad boy. Therein lies the 'balance'. (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
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