lucy_1984 Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 To cut a long story short... We are due a final financial hearing in April but after much discussion I've accepted my ex's offer to buy me out of our property. We are in the process of completely the D81 form that accompanies the consent order for the court. My ex has filled in his details but left the "total amount in bank accounts" blank and has left out the fact that he's been 'loaned' a very high amount of money by his family to buy me out and pay off the existing mortgage. He says it's because he doesn't want the court to see it as an asset which will allow me to go for half of it. I've told him over and over again I will not do this but he doesn't believe me. What shall I do? I am not happy to sign anything knowing it's false information and he's withheld information. I really don't want to go to court again in April but I'm not sure I have another choice. He's not willing to tell the truth on the form so I think I'm going to have to book in a barrister and see him there so they can sort it for us 🙄 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 Booking a barrister there will be too late. Get some legal advice now so that you've got a plan going forward Link to post Share on other sites
tzorno Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 Basil67 has the right answer As for the trust issue, my ex-wife told me to trust her too during our divorce. Thank goodness I didn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lucy_1984 Posted January 28 Author Share Posted January 28 8 hours ago, basil67 said: Booking a barrister there will be too late. Get some legal advice now so that you've got a plan going forward Thanks for your reply. Sorry, I didn't mean I'd book a barrister when I'm in court. I've had a barrister for the last court hearing and she knows about all his previous dodgy behaviour so I'll be booking her in again in advance. I have had plenty of legal advice until now and I can't afford anymore now until court. (If it proceeds to that). I just don't know what to do about him deliberately lying on a legal document?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lucy_1984 Posted January 28 Author Share Posted January 28 5 hours ago, tzorno said: Basil67 has the right answer As for the trust issue, my ex-wife told me to trust her too during our divorce. Thank goodness I didn't. Sorry to hear that your ex-wife couldn't be trusted but we're not all like her. Just like I'd hope that not all ex-husbands are lying and manipulative like mine. I hope you've found happiness now. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 28 Share Posted January 28 (edited) 1 hour ago, lucy_1984 said: I have had plenty of legal advice until now and I can't afford anymore now until court. (If it proceeds to that). I just don't know what to do about him deliberately lying on a legal document?? I'm afraid you'll need legal advice about they lying. Just make sure you take any evidence you have Do you actually need a barrister? I imagine an experienced solicitor could be cheaper Edited January 28 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted January 28 Share Posted January 28 8 hours ago, tzorno said: Basil67 has the right answer As for the trust issue, my ex-wife told me to trust her too during our divorce. Thank goodness I didn't. I tend to think that anyone who tells you, "Trust me," in response to a perfectly reasonable request for information is suspect. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
tzorno Posted January 28 Share Posted January 28 8 hours ago, lucy_1984 said: Sorry to hear that your ex-wife couldn't be trusted but we're not all like her. Just like I'd hope that not all ex-husbands are lying and manipulative like mine. I hope you've found happiness now. Of course all people are different, but when it comes to divorce always protect yourself and be prepared. They aren't the same people you once knew and now it's just business matters. As my lawyer said, he's never seen a divorce not get ugly at some point even with both parties in supposed agreement. My ex kept telling me to just get a cheap lawyer and save my money as she was only going to take the car, her belongings, and half the royalty checks that we received monthly. Sounded to good to be true. Of course it was. I ponied up for the best lawyer I could get and i'm glad I did. When it came time for the demands, the ex all of a sudden wanted 100K in cash, me to take over sole responsibility of a couple of loans she took out equating to 20K, sole responsibility of our daughters school loans equating to 20K (which she earler swore we would split), half of the royalty checks for the rest of her life minus any responsibilty of paying property taxes on the land that weilded the checks, and half of my 401k. Big contrast to just taking her car and belongings. My lawyer was a bulldog and did some heavy digging. She got most of what she asked for, but I got to keep my 401K and didn't have to sell my house. I got a bad deal in the end, but it wasn't fatal as it could have been. I am happy now. Thank you. I have been seeing a wonderful girl for over a year now that I don't deserve, my kids are healthy and married, and i'm going to be a Grandpa for a second time. I remember at the time of my divorce, I told my lawyer that I needed a win no matter how small it was as the ex seemed to win everything. He told me at the time that I already won, I just didn't realize it yet. I didn't understand as I certainly lost money wise. Three years later I finally got it. My kids alienated their mother. She has no access to her granddaughter or her future grandchildren. She has no friends. Her own sister doesn't even talk to her now. She is a raging alcoholic that can be found passed out on the bar at the local Moose lodge while her boyfriend parties with his friends. She's a mess. I always wanted karma to hit her hard, but now I just feel sorry for her. My lawyer was right, I did win if there ever is such a thing as winners and losers in divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 28 Share Posted January 28 7 hours ago, tzorno said: As my lawyer said, he's never seen a divorce not get ugly at some point even with both parties in supposed agreement Huh. My lawyer congratulated me and my ex for having such an easy and respectful divorce. We just sorted it out between ourselves and they did the paperwork for him to buy my share of the house. Not everyone out there is selfish and evil in divorce 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tzorno Posted January 29 Share Posted January 29 3 hours ago, basil67 said: Huh. My lawyer congratulated me and my ex for having such an easy and respectful divorce. We just sorted it out between ourselves and they did the paperwork for him to buy my share of the house. Not everyone out there is selfish and evil in divorce I'm sure it was an over exaggeration, but he was saying that at the time I told him what she said she wanted. I stated it sounded too good to be true and he agreed. We were both right. Congratulations on the civility of your divorce. I envy you. Deep in my heart I wish my ex and I could have done the same and be friends today, but she just became too evil. The cheating was just a tip of the cap. There is so much more to the story. Link to post Share on other sites
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