He said he's only been with skinny women so I don't understand why he liked me on a dating app

[Candycupexoxx]

I matched on a dating app with a guy and we've been talking for three days. I asked him if he was attracted to a certain type of woman physically and this is what he said. 

I've only been with petite white women. But I wouldn't say it's a type. I like all kinds of women. As I get older, all I want is a healthy relationship.

 

Does this sound right to you? Should I just move on? I'm not white and I'm not petite either. 

 

[Georgia46]

Nooo he’s telling you he’s only ever been with white women who are petite but that he’s interested in all kinds. 

give him a chance. 

[Candycupexoxx]

4 minutes ago, Georgia46 said:

Nooo he’s telling you he’s only ever been with white women who are petite but that he’s interested in all kinds. 

give him a chance. 

He's never even been with a woman who looks like me. So I don't understand why he would even like me on the dating app. 

[Georgia46]

Perhaps he likes all types but so far has only ever had experiences with white petite women as he says …. He must like you I’m sure he does. 

[basil67]

2 minutes ago, Candycupexoxx said:

He's never even been with a woman who looks like me. So I don't understand why he would even like me on the dating app. 

He's clearly fine with your looks, but asking him loaded questions and obsessing over the answers is going to turn him off really quickly

All in all, if you think he's a chance, then get your act together.   If you think he's full of lies, unmatch him.

 

 

[Candycupexoxx]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

He's clearly fine with your looks, but asking him loaded questions and obsessing over the answers is going to turn him off really quickly

All in all, if you think he's a chance, then get your act together.   If you think he's full of lies, unmatch him.

 

 

How is that obsessing? Wanting to know what someone is attracted to is obsessing? That's odd.

[basil67]

3 minutes ago, Candycupexoxx said:

How is that obsessing? Wanting to know what someone is attracted to is obsessing? That's odd.

Perhaps I was unclear.   He's asked you out, so clearly he finds you attractive enough.   Asking him about his previous dating history of attraction is a loaded question, and frankly, none of your business.  

Also, he said he's been with 'petite' women.  Not 'skinny' women.  

Edited January 27 by basil67

[NuevoYorko]

He answered the question you asked him.  Now you can either accept that he was being honest with you, or decide that he was lying and move on.

Please be prepared that he might not like you, you might not like him, or any combination.   If he doesn't like you please don't go blaming it on the way you look.  That could play a role - but in reality, we are NOT a match for the majority of people that we may meet.  So, this might or might not happen with the guy.   

Just don't blame it on how you're not petite and white if it doesn't move on to romance between you; stick with "we were not a good fit" and move on.

[Gebidozo]

He told you he likes all kinds of women and having a healthy relationship is the priority for him. Even if white petite women were his type, there is nothing unusual in dating someone who isn’t your type physically. There is no reason to think it will fail only because he used to date a physically different type. On the contrary, there are chances that it will be an interesting, exciting experience.

 

[ExpatInItaly]

Why create a problem where there isn't one, OP? 

[Acacia98]

10 hours ago, Candycupexoxx said:

I matched on a dating app with a guy and we've been talking for three days. I asked him if he was attracted to a certain type of woman physically and this is what he said. 

I've only been with petite white women. But I wouldn't say it's a type. I like all kinds of women. As I get older, all I want is a healthy relationship.

 

Does this sound right to you? Should I just move on? I'm not white and I'm not petite either. 

 

None of us can read his mind and tell you what exactly the thought process was. So you're going to have to make the decision yourself. If you think it's a waste of your time, then move on. If you think it's worth your while, then give him the benefit of the doubt and see how things go.

[introverted1]

Are your pictures current and full body on the app?  

[Sony12]

These are the types of reasons why people sign up for dating sites and never meet anyone. They create reasons to lose interest.

[Acacia98]

1 hour ago, Sony12 said:

These are the types of reasons why people sign up for dating sites and never meet anyone. They create reasons to lose interest.

I think you have a point. At the same time, this is an eye-opener. Makes one realize that, even if you are polite and respectful and have the best intentions, the other person may find you suspicious and assume the worst of you. So people shouldn't automatically take the challenges of online dating personally.

[Gaeta]

Sometimes l wonder why some women always end up with the same type of shallow losers. The reason is they can't make the difference between a good guy and a bad one. 

This man gave you a smart, level headed, mature answer. Are YOU mature enough for this man!

[Interstellar]

What is your gut telling you? that he only went for you because he’s been striking out lately and you’re second choice? the only way to find out is by going out on dates with him and watch for red flags and see if it’s really your gut telling you something or just your anxiety.