should I ask for another meeting

[Charles_moeller]

A few weeks ago a woman requested to connect in with me on LinkedIn and proceeded to DM me about non-work related topics (asked about my private life, travel, etc) she found out I had a meeting close to where she works and asked to meet for coffee.

We had a great chat and I liked the vibe. Again, nothing really work-related. Since then we've been talking daily (not a lot, just one or two messages a day)

I asked to meet her again because I'm going back into the same area this week and thought it'd be nice to catch up. She mentioned she's working from home because of chinese new year (she works for a chinese company)

I replied with "that's all good. Enjoy the break"

Because she didnt offer to reschedule would you suggest to not message her again until she reaches out?

I feel its a bit of a grey zone as we're not actually dating and I dont have any intentions to..I thought it'd be nice to make a new connection and someone to meet every so often when I'm in the area.

[Sony12]

38 minutes ago, Charles_moeller said:

A few weeks ago a woman requested to connect in with me on LinkedIn and proceeded to DM me about non-work related topics (asked about my private life, travel, etc) she found out I had a meeting close to where she works and asked to meet for coffee.

We had a great chat and I liked the vibe. Again, nothing really work-related. Since then we've been talking daily (not a lot, just one or two messages a day)

I asked to meet her again because I'm going back into the same area this week and thought it'd be nice to catch up. She mentioned she's working from home because of chinese new year (she works for a chinese company)

I replied with "that's all good. Enjoy the break"

Because she didnt offer to reschedule would you suggest to not message her again until she reaches out?

I feel its a bit of a grey zone as we're not actually dating and I dont have any intentions to..I thought it'd be nice to make a new connection and someone to meet every so often when I'm in the area.

Just continue to keep in touch and if she continues to be responsive to your messages ask to meet again. If she cancels or declines a second time then that would be an indication that it would be likely to become a pattern with her.

Edited Wednesday at 04:44 PM by Sony12

[basil67]

Did you know this woman before she reached out?   Friend of a friend?   Or if she works in the same industry, can she speak on the topic with authority?   

If not, I'd view her with suspicion - particularly if she's got a hot profile photo

Edited Wednesday at 09:01 PM by basil67

[Charles_moeller]

2 hours ago, basil67 said:

Did you know this woman before she reached out?   Friend of a friend?   Or if she works in the same industry, can she speak on the topic with authority?   

If not, I'd view her with suspicion - particularly if she's got a hot profile photo

No not at all. I work in recruitment so she must of got a notification that I looked at her profile. We do work in the same industry but just different job roles..

from here she connected in and kept it all non-work related and then asked to meet.

in person she was great. I had a lovely time with her but since she turned down the follow up request maybe she wanted to keep it as a networking or attention type thing…which is fine, I’m not looking to date her

Edited Wednesday at 11:11 PM by Charles_moeller

[Miss Chrysalis]

2 hours ago, Charles_moeller said:

No not at all. I work in recruitment so she must of got a notification that I looked at her profile. We do work in the same industry but just different job roles..

from here she connected in and kept it all non-work related and then asked to meet.

in person she was great. I had a lovely time with her but since she turned down the follow up request maybe she wanted to keep it as a networking or attention type thing…which is fine, I’m not looking to date her

 

I probably would leave the ball in her court now, especially if you two are connected on LinkedIn (or any other social media) and can still maintain contact that way.  See what happens.

[Charles_moeller]

I'm interested to know if this woman liked me..

 

For context about 3 weeks ago a woman connected in with me on LinkedIn and sent me a bunch of personal questions (travel, teasing, etc) without discussing any work-related content

 

When she found out I had a meeting near where she worked, she asked me out for coffee. I went and I liked her vibe (I work in recruitment and I wasn't sure what her intentions were so I didn't flirt and kept it professional)

 

From here she messaged me daily. I mentioned a new bar that opened in her area (she just moved house and I gave her suggestions about places she could go) and she wanted to go with me.

 

I turned her down and told her I have a girlfriend and suggested it's not a good idea to keep texting me.

 

She wrote back and agreed. She also said that "I was just looking for connections in the industry. Sorry if this caused confusion"

 

I'm wondering if you think she's being honest or she just wrote that because I turned down drinks and she feels a bit hurt by it?

 

I was looking at her as a potential lead/client but work didn’t seem on her radar with these interactions…

[basil67]

I think you're absolutely right.  Plus, you're an HR professional, so you know what networking should look like....and this wasn't it