An I wrong? How do I deal with this?

[rogersm]

My girlfriend and I are having our two year dating anniversary this weekend on Sunday. We are spending Friday-Sunday with each other on a weekend trip. But Sunday night my team is in the Super Bowl and I asked if we could have my parents over to watch the game with us. I let her know that I know it's our anniversary and I would understand if not. But, she didn't take it well. I don't feel like I handled the situation poorly and I am trying to let her know I respect her decision if it's a no. But she is upset with me. Was I in the wrong? I let her know it meant a lot to watch the game with my dad whom passed down the game to me and my favorite team. But I hoped she would see that I wanted to respect our relationship as well 

Edited Wednesday at 12:26 AM by rogersm

[S2B]

It’s hard for me to understand her being upset.

watch the game with your dad! If she’s that self centered - she can be alone for one day - especially since you are already celebrating for two days with her!

someone who is that demanding and ungrateful would be shown the door (for good).

just saying! It’s a LOOOONG life with someone with that outlook.

[Gebidozo]

Letting a selfish, controlling person dictate you what to do and throw tantrums whenever you dare to have your own wishes isn’t respecting the relationship, it’s being subjected to abuse.

Watch the game with your parents and let her do whatever she wants. If she doesn’t apologize and just keeps fuming, let her go.

[MsJayne]

If the game was during the actual day of your anniversary I would say you're being selfish, but as it's in the evening and you'll have spent the weekend together celebrating the anniversary she's being a bit unreasonable. Just be nice about how you explain that you're having your Super Bowl night regardless of how she feels about it.

[Els]

You weren't wrong to ask at all. If she'd politely said that she'd prefer to spend the actual day of the anniversary with you, and you refused, then I'd say you are wrong. However in this case you respected her refusal and said you'd spend it with her, and she's STILL throwing a tantrum. Pretty big overreaction on her part IMO.

That being said, I'm also not that familiar with the Super Bowl and how it works... I did watch the Dallas Cowboys documentary though, so I was under the assumption that it lasts for months or something? Or is this the only day that your team is playing, for the whole event?

[ShyViolet]

She should be mature enough to be willing to celebrate the anniversary with you on Saturday, since the Superbowl is Sunday and you wanted to watch it with your Dad.  I don't think that is an unreasonable request.  For her to throw a little tantrum over it is ridiculous.  

[Gebidozo]

8 hours ago, Els said:

That being said, I'm also not that familiar with the Super Bowl and how it works... I did watch the Dallas Cowboys documentary though, so I was under the assumption that it lasts for months or something? Or is this the only day that your team is playing, for the whole event?

Super Bowl is just one game. It’s the championship game of NFL, the national (American) football league. Think World Cup final in soccer. It’s a huge sports event in the US.

And even if it weren’t, I still don’t get it why she’d throw a selfish tantrum after she’d already had anniversary activities with the OP. Who cares what day exactly the anniversary is? He already did for her what he could.

For that matter, why do some people care so much about anniversaries and birthdays and holidays and whatever festivities so much that they are willing to hurt other people because of them?

[S2B]

IF she were smart about this - she would join in and make the day super fun for everyone! 

[Els]

On 2/6/2025 at 11:38 AM, Gebidozo said:

Super Bowl is just one game. It’s the championship game of NFL, the national (American) football league. Think World Cup final in soccer. It’s a huge sports event in the US.

And even if it weren’t, I still don’t get it why she’d throw a selfish tantrum after she’d already had anniversary activities with the OP. Who cares what day exactly the anniversary is? He already did for her what he could.

For that matter, why do some people care so much about anniversaries and birthdays and holidays and whatever festivities so much that they are willing to hurt other people because of them?

Ah okay, I must have gotten it mixed up with something else! Is there a "league" too?

Agreed that throwing a selfish tantrum is never cool. Especially when OP already said he respects her decision! Not sure what she's angling for here, tbh.

If it did run for months, I think it would have made sense to spend their anniversary together and watch the show with his parents at some point in the remaining months. Otherwise it'd kinda be like me not wanting to skip my weekly raid night with friends when my anniversary falls on that date - it'd be understandable if H wasn't happy about that. 😛 If it's something that happens all the time, then it makes sense to prioritize the thing that happens once a year, IMO.

But that's irrelevant because the game appears to be once a year(?) and like I said, she's throwing a tantrum even though the OP said "okay", which is just baffling.