We've connected but haven't met officially

[xvccm]

So I met her on the popular Match dating site. She hesitated at first to send me a selfie. She told me she looked rough. So the first day I messaged her on the dating app. Then we got off the app and started texting. She sent me a selfie of her at the store. And she was at the store from what she said. We did a video chat and talked awhile. She claims to be a pre K teacher. She has called me a couple of times and we talked. I told her I like to text. But I don't mind talking. We seen to relate in many ways. The other day she told me she was dropping her car off at the mechanics due to winter weather they caused her windshield to be full of holes. She laughed and told me by text her window looked like a ghetto shooting.  She was dropping it off during the night. And I don't know any mechanics that repair windows. Usually there is a service that comes to your house to do that. I was puzzled. Never have I witnessed or heard anyone with such a wild story like that. She said she was due a overdue oil change too. She seemed to think the whole situation she was in was funny. I'm just wondering if she was telling a story and meeting a guy. She told me she has trouble netting guys. She told me the other day she had to pick her sister up from work due to her injury. She didn't tell me her sister had a car till today. I try to have long conversations with her about general things like politics, foods, TV shows. We've talked romantically too. She has paused texting me  back at various times. And I felt as though she was avoiding me. I got off the dating app I met her on. But now since she lives a few hours from me in the same state. I don't know that we will ever meet. We've talked about meeting. She told me she has trust issues. I've already done what I can without being too pushy to meet up. 

 

Am I wasting my time with her? Should I just move on? 

[Gebidozo]

I don’t understand what exactly you’re expecting here. It is entirely possible that she is meeting guys. Maybe she also has sex with those guys. Why not? You aren’t together. You haven’t even started dating. You haven’t even met, for goodness’s sake. You owe absolutely nothing to each other.

I can’t fathom why so many people have insanely high expectations from some strangers from a dating site. Before you’ve been on a few dates with a person there can be no expectations whatsoever.

if you feel you’re wasting your time with her, then stop wasting your time (and hers). I don’t see what exactly made you feel this way, but you’re absolutely not obliged to commit to this in any way. If you start talking with a person online and think you might like that person, then the very first thing you do is arrange a meeting. If you don’t, I can’t see how this could even qualify as a slight, vague romantic interest.

[NuevoYorko]

Why would she be telling you whether her sister has a car or not?  You seem awfully suspicious of her, especially considering that you have not even met!  

If you're interested in meeting her, make that happen.  People are on dating sites to MEET PEOPLE.   If she'd find it "pushy" for you to ask to meet - then fine,  what's the  point of hanging on?   

Otherwise, again, what's the point of hanging on if you do not want to meet her?  Stop wasting time.  

[basil67]

1 hour ago, xvccm said:

She told me she has trust issues.

Pot, meet kettle

[ShyViolet]

What is the point of chatting with someone who lives a few hours away from you?  I don't understand why so many people keep posting about situations like this.  So let's say you did meet in person and like each other, and wanted to date.  You would need to travel hours every time you see each other?  That is absolutely ridiculous.  Endless texting and phone calls is not a relationship.  Dating is an in-person, real life activity.  Yes you are absolutely wasting your time with this.  Meet people in your local area and don't endlessly text with them before meeting in person.