michael.simpson99 Posted Monday at 12:41 PM Share Posted Monday at 12:41 PM As the title says, after 7 years she just left and left note i had to i don't see myself here anymore, good luck. I have been with girl for 7 years, we have been on and off for some reasons but eventually we stayed together.. maybe 1 month before this she was always saying what if i go somewhere and work i don't see my self here anymore, what if this what if that, and i started to feel unsecure but when i asked her she said no no i don't mean that. We have dog also for 5 years and she left him with her mother even though she was very very close to the dog and said she would never leave him, and today i just saw message saying i left in another state(country) i couldn't live here anymore i don't like it . Stay safe goodbye and she blocked me everywhere. I contacted her mother she said she doesn't know bla bla(mother is with her of course) and don't call us anymore she decided like this.. 8 years ago i had even longer relationship with my previous gf and she left after 8 years so more or less i managed that break up but this is a bit harder i see. Now i am coping as you all know, and i feel pointless in my life and only thing that bothers me the most is that she only left note after 7 years saying this and left in another country , i mean come on who does that! Maybe she found another dude, i don't know etc etc and left with him but i think what she did is very rude and it hurts a lot! Did you have something similar happen and how did you get through? Also to mention that i recently lost my job too and that is also a thing in my life so more or less i feel very lonely and very bad and sad... Thank for reading. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted Monday at 10:38 PM Share Posted Monday at 10:38 PM The timing of your posts suggests that this is the same woman: how to get over her I was really shocked to read the situation you were in on your first post about here, and I'm saddened that more of us didn't find it and tell you to get away from her. We would have told you that good relationships don't have big ups and downs. We would have told you to stay far away for someone who is a lying manipulator. And a cheater. And with your knowledge of what a mess she was, I don't know why you're surprised that she just up and left with just a note. My advice is to spend time learning what a respectful romantic relationship looks like. And then try and figure out (or do therapy) why you chose two in a row. When you are get to the point of being able to recognise that you were a fool to put up with all of this, you'll be well on your way to recovery. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author michael.simpson99 Posted Tuesday at 09:57 AM Author Share Posted Tuesday at 09:57 AM 11 hours ago, basil67 said: The timing of your posts suggests that this is the same woman: how to get over her I was really shocked to read the situation you were in on your first post about here, and I'm saddened that more of us didn't find it and tell you to get away from her. We would have told you that good relationships don't have big ups and downs. We would have told you to stay far away for someone who is a lying manipulator. And a cheater. And with your knowledge of what a mess she was, I don't know why you're surprised that she just up and left with just a note. My advice is to spend time learning what a respectful romantic relationship looks like. And then try and figure out (or do therapy) why you chose two in a row. When you are get to the point of being able to recognise that you were a fool to put up with all of this, you'll be well on your way to recovery. Thank you so much for the reply. Well i don't have much friends or people i can speak to so i posted here. As for your response, i just think that i lost this 6-7 years of my life and she found another dude probably with whom she will try to get pregnant or whatever in this short period, maybe even doing it behind my back . Also what bothers me is that she is somehow better then me, she left in another country, she will be happier there, she already have another dude so she somehow won this and i am left alone in my city with no one basically just to grief if you understand what i am trying to say Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted Wednesday at 06:24 AM Share Posted Wednesday at 06:24 AM 20 hours ago, michael.simpson99 said: so she somehow won this Won what? Breaking up is not a competition. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted Wednesday at 06:50 AM Share Posted Wednesday at 06:50 AM 20 hours ago, michael.simpson99 said: Thank you so much for the reply. Well i don't have much friends or people i can speak to so i posted here. As for your response, i just think that i lost this 6-7 years of my life and she found another dude probably with whom she will try to get pregnant or whatever in this short period, maybe even doing it behind my back . Also what bothers me is that she is somehow better then me, she left in another country, she will be happier there, she already have another dude so she somehow won this and i am left alone in my city with no one basically just to grief if you understand what i am trying to say Bitterness and self pity are only going to make you feel worse and severely impede your future dating. There are no winners and losers here. Your ex’s life after your breakup is not something that should concern you like this. Try to focus on yourself. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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