Limerence is the worst

[basil67]

Exactly ^    You don't need disclose that you sit in your own stink in the toilet for half an hour reading your phone while your partner is busting for a wee.   But you do need to disclose the basics of your situation.  

We get disgruntled posters here all the time who are pissed about having had important information withheld.  And when I say important, I'm talking about age, marital status, employment and yes, location.   Holding back on this kind of stuff is what makes people really pissy about OLD

[Acacia98]

On 2/11/2025 at 10:13 AM, uncanny said:

I get it but it's also my point. Anything is possible. If was not given a chance nonetheless 

Perhaps I'm wrong, but it sounds to me like you're having trouble accepting the fact that you can't control every eventuality. That's a disastrous attitude to take into dating. You have to be able to accept that you won't do/say everything 'perfectly,' and that, yes, there will be missed opportunities. That's the essence of life.

If you spend too much time obsessing over a missed opportunity that was unlikely to work out anyway, you may end up overlooking a far better potential match.

[FredEire]

There's something about limerence situations and circumstance making it almost impossible. I don't know how many times I've met a girl as I was about to move away from somewhere, or just passing through a city for one night etc and thought "damn, why couldn't we just be living in the same place?"

Would I have found myself overthinking this connection if it wasn't hopelessly unlikely? Maybe not, maybe I wouldn't have been into her. Maybe she wouldn't have been into me. Impossible is safe, it's important to remember that. It's a very easy place to think back about what ifs without them turning into if onlys. The mind and the heart can play some strange tricks.

Edited February 18 by FredEire