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Husband incarcerated, now I found out he was cheating


sonyjona

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I don't know where to begin... I was married to my husband on August 26th, 2024. He was incarcerated 12/26/2024. I have discovered so many earth shattering facts about him since he's been away and I can't process any of it because I have no idea where to start. The relapse on drugs while I was working to get my peer recovery certification. The cheating. Finding him online sending money to complete strangers while we struggled ot pay our bills. Then late last night, I get a call from his friend who sounded extremely high, stating that my husband doesn't need to worry about the girl he has been sleeping with because "he's giving her what she need now". 

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How's he giving her what she need when he's incarcerated?  

I'm sorry you are in such a mess - I don't thing there's anything that can be done to "fix" anything, since this marriage was obviously built on a very poor foundation.  You didn't know who you were hitching up with.  Now you do.

Fortunately it's a short marriage.  I am sure you're feeling devastated but please just start doing what is necessary to dissolve the marriage and move on from this as swiftly as possible.  It's actually kind of a gift that he's locked up, so you don't have to contend with his antics while you get your own life on track and leave this behind you.  

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Sorry, his "friend" called me to tell me that he's been taking care of whatever female my husband was having an affair with. Then he proceeded to attempt to extort sex nd money frmo me to get her name. It feels impossible to close the book on this because he will NEVER tell me the truth.

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3 hours ago, sonyjona said:

The relapse on drugs while I was working to get my peer recovery certification. The cheating. Finding him online sending money to complete strangers while we struggled ot pay our bills

I would be headed straight to a divorce lawyer. 

How long had you known him when got married? 

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4 hours ago, sonyjona said:

It feels impossible to close the book on this because he will NEVER tell me the truth.

Stop expecting him to tell you the truth and see if you can still get an annulment so he can't come back to you when he gets out.

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