RandallHare Posted February 22 Share Posted February 22 I'm single, single, single. 37 and single. No kids. No girlfriend. Not even separated. In short, I'm single and available. So this is going to be my first day as I enter a new chapter. I think I'm doing better now than before. I'm no longer looking for pretty and sexy women. I have decided to look for someone I would have a really nice romantic connections with... like a love story I would want to retell and retell... so I declare that this is the first day of my love story... So basically, today, we had an election in our local chapter of lawyers' organization. I joined the election to socialize and to find the "right one." In our party, there were 3 single women. Hmmmm... Looks like a good place to form meaningful relationships? What are their names? Hmmmm Let's call them Cathryn, Jewel, and Amara. I've already dated Cathryn 2 years ago. She's pretty and had a good body. Too bad, she chose the nurse. Her reason being that she wants someone from another profession. But she said that I'm handsome. I guess so. 🤷🏼♂️ So, knowing that from the get-go, I narrowed my choices to Jewel and Amara. I love Amara's name! She said it means "love" and before she was able to tell me what language it belongs to, I guessed correctly that it is Greek. Amazing, right? Out of all the three women, I've had the deepest connection with Amara. She's pretty and sexy. She joined several beauty pageants. Cathryn joined a few pageants but Amara seems like a veteran. We really bonded and even after the party had ended, we were still talking to each other like there's more that we could talk about. During the picture-taking, I accidentally wrapped my right arm around her waist. Instead of feeling awkward, she wrapped hers around mine. Crazy, right? I know! Or maybe I should know better... because it was later revealed that she's already engaged. :| What about Jewel? Jewel seemed to have a lot of personality. Even though she may not be so beautiful, she's kinda tall... maybe taller than I am. I also like her and want to get to know her more. When I sang "Seasons of Love" during the party, she went in and we had some kind of a duet. It just so happens that she likes Broadway, she likes theaters and was surprised that I know "Rent." She asked me if I have watched "Rent," I said no, because I want to see it on a theater, not on a moviehouse or on my laptop. I told her that if I have to see it, I want to see it live. After a while, she said that there are actually local theaters around and they cost 150 pesos only (less than 3 dollars)! I definitely want to see these plays soon but got too shy to ask her if I can go with her... Later on, when I continued conversing with the ladies, I casually asked Jewel if she had a boyfriend. It turns out that she had none. This response made me happy. :) There's actually another girl at the party... but she did not run in the elections. We had very deep personal conversations during the party and we really had this emotional connection to each other. She's also pretty and sexy... and she's quite a good singer. I will call her Hya. To be honest, if Hya wasn't 41 years old, I would've dated her. I'm looking for someone I could have a big family with... like 3 children... I just think that 2 children would be boring... so I want 3. I'm not sure if it's possible with Hya. In the end, it seems that I have a chance with Jewel. I really don't know how to start a conversation with Jewel but I do want to see if she's the one. And if not, at least, I would have more experience dating with women. :) Tomorrow's another day... and I'll definitely see more women... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 8 hours ago, RandallHare said: I love Amara's name! She said it means "love" and before she was able to tell me what language it belongs to, I guessed correctly that it is Greek. Amazing, right? Sorry, it’s wrong😳 The name “Amara” has an obscure etymology, might be of Igbo (Nigerian) origin. It does sound similar to the verb “amar” (“to love”), but that is Spanish. Greek words for “love” are totally different. “Philia” in a general sense, “agape” as a deep feeling, “eros” as a romantic attraction. 8 hours ago, RandallHare said: To be honest, if Hya wasn't 41 years old, I would've dated her. I'm looking for someone I could have a big family with... like 3 children... I just think that 2 children would be boring... so I want 3. You are entitled to your plans and dreams, but please don’t tell women you’re trying to date that your actual goal is having a big family with 3 children, because 2 aren’t enough. Perhaps try to do one thing at a time and put that idea on hold for a while? 8 hours ago, RandallHare said: Tomorrow's another day... and I'll definitely see more women... Maybe instead of seeing many different women and being strangely excited about all of them, you can try focus on one that you genuinely like? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 18 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: Sorry, it’s wrong😳 The name “Amara” has an obscure etymology, might be of Igbo (Nigerian) origin. It does sound similar to the verb “amar” (“to love”), but that is Spanish. Greek words for “love” are totally different. “Philia” in a general sense, “agape” as a deep feeling, “eros” as a romantic attraction. OP made fake names to protect their privacy. I think the woman's actual name means 'love' Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 Randall, there's a strong vibe of you selecting these women as if they were products on a shelf. You're sounding just like I do when weighing up pros and cons of different shoes. And despite you saying that you're not looking for pretty and sexy women, you continue to discuss how pretty and sexy they are. It's smart to get out there, but joining a professional (or a hobby) group to find a girlfriend is the kind of behaviour which gives female members the icks. So don't rush straight in and ask this woman out. And if she says no, then don't ask out other women in the group because you'll get a bad reputation or even be asked to leave. Remember that these women joined a professional group to network, not find a boyfriend. FWIW, I believe that hobby groups such as MeetUp get about 30% of men joining with a view of finding a girlfriend. Meanwhile, the women are there for the hobby. The women don't like being hit on while doing their hobby...so they will discuss the guy among other women there..... and then complain about being hit on to the coordinator and the men are asked to leave. Don't be the guy who is asked to leave. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 You are still only really focused on physical appearance, you ain't fooling anyone here. And you want a woman to have 3 kids with you? Do you know what that does to a woman's body? You sure wouldn't be satisfied anymore. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted February 23 Share Posted February 23 Have the one child first to see what it’s actually like before convincing yourself that 2 is boring 🫣😆. You may be in for a shock… 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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