In law

[worried in fl]

Hi guys- new to the forum. I have a really big problem. I have been married for 3 1/2 years, together for 6. My husband is very close to his mother and sister. Whenever they are around, I feel out of place and not adequate enough. Here is an example: Christmas- They are staying at our house for 10 days (it was a long time), After using my bathroom, the sister tells me- "_____ needs a new toothbrush", the mom tells me: "you are not using the right fabric softner", the mom says "you need to get a better lotion for ______, his skin is too dry." They criticize the way I act with my dog. It makes me feel like I am not good enough. I am really worried about what will happen when I have a baby. They live in way up North and I am in Florida, which makes it not too bad to deal with because we don't see them too often. The problem- they are moving down here. I don't know how to deal with it without making my husband upset. I need to tell him that we need to set up boundaries, but I am afraid that he will leave me if I start talking about not wanting his family around all the time. I love my husband very much and never want to lose him, but I don't know what to do. I am afraid that all of our time will be spent with his family.

 

Thanks for any help