do some ex's never speak again

[Brittanyjean06]

yeah but he did it because i wrote him those mean emails( i dont regret that though) the last things he said to me was

 

throw out those rings i gave you, they don't meen nething now- and have a good life brittany

 

 

BU bye ah

 

 

now i here hes moving away-yeah im sure hes real happy

[In Sync]

After reading all the back and forth opinions lately about contacting and not contacting an ex, I'm starting to get curious about my 'X'. I am recovering much better than I had imagined because there's been no word..yet it is strange that he's disappeared? Completely. Did a UFO whisk him away? Maybe he does feel awkward to break the ice? I'm tempted to find out, but then the idea of hurting if he were rude or distant or doesn't respond, all common traits he's displayed in the past, would be downer. Just thinkin' out loud.

[brooke7777]

The wondering part sucks big time. It's constantly in my mind. Wondering if he's gona call, wondering what he's doing, wondering if he's thinking about me, wondering what he's really feeling.

 

It's so hard to let go of that wondering and I think that contributes to many of our ups and downs. When the mind gets going and really analyzing it brings back all of the pain and what if scenarios.

[chocolate_boy]

I'm sure all of you can tell that i am waiting to here from my ex- i try not to think about it- but its been 5 months- yeah they have a new girlfriend- and hasn't talked to me?? we went out for 2 1/2 years---- do some ex's never speak again??

 

that would be very werid-? right

 

 

Not at all, my first girlfriend I haven't seen or spoken to in around 8 years, couldn't even tell you were she is now. Also had one who shacked up with one of my best buddies (yeah!) I think they're still together and live together somewhere now but couldn't tell you where, not heard from them in around 6 years.

 

My next one (Holly) not spoke to her since 2001.. I do keep in touch with two of my exes, one was only a short relationship (about 4 months) and she has been engaged to a guy for last 18 months, she is one of my closest friends though and he's a great guy.

 

I'm only close to one of my exes, who oddly was my most serious relationship, but we're very good friends again now, however we haven't really had much contact for about 3 years til recently, now it's cool, we sort of have an Elaine-Jerry from Seinfeld thing going on

 

My recent ex I doubt I will ever speak to again, she's just not the sort of person I want in my life, maybe she'll mature one day, but I have no desire to ever see her again, and hope I don't. Hey, she wanted me out of her life, wish granted.

[chocolate_boy]

I only heard from him once and that was in September. Plus, he is seeing someone else. In the meantime, it hurts like hell that they don't contact us, but why should they?

 

In both of our situations, these girls are rebounds, so who knows how long they will last.

 

 

Maybe they are, but who cares how long it will last? Keep in touch with your ex and you might get an invite to their wedding with their new partner this year, or never contact them again and just assume they are rebounds and its failed horribly now they're lonely and miserable! If you don't contact them again, you don't get hurt.

[Brittanyjean06]

yep, i just haven't lived long enough to see so many outcomes of all my ex's- i meen i never talk to my other ex's with were like middle school relationships- i guess its good like that- because one day i will be able to see him and be like eh what was i thinking- I was too good for him, i gave up so much

 

peace!

 

 

brook you are so right, wondering messes you up!

[justagirliegirl]

The only one I talk to is the one I had kids with. I'm not in the area to talk to any others.

 

I guess it is just odd how we can entirely cut people out of our lives. One day we love them and then nothing. People are strange.

 

That kind of supports my why bother with love theory.