Can someone clear up how women show interest?

[Gulf-Delta]

So I have this girl I work with. I'll be brief and just list some of her behaviors

She always initiates convos with me, I haven't initiated many with her

Asks me questions about what I'm into, have I traveled to xyz place, etc.

She's touched me intentionally (arm grabbing telling me i should be better at taking compliments) and "accidentally" (we work on close quarters. We've touched hands more than once).

She's made jokes about "killing me" ("it's ok, you survived...for now [flutters eyes looking up at me]" or I said you're gonna kill me with this and she said "no comment" sarcastically).

I tolI her I was into music and she looked me up and down and said I "got that going on".

Told her I was a scorpio (she also is) and said i was on the "cool side" of being a scorpio.

Playfully called me "bad boy" and "rebel". 

 Walked all the way out to my car to ask me if watched Dr who because i drive a mini cooper.

Asked me if I've seen some smutty Nicole kidman movie, made me look up the trailer, and was like "pretty steamy, right?" and saying how shes hot about it, basically

She gave me an orange the other day, she gave me some candy a few days before.

When we talk she smiles, giggles, we bust each other's chops.

She's told me things about her period and birth control (I barely know her)

 

But a lot of times, when she's working, she's dead to the world. Doesn't talk to anyone. And then randomly she'll turn to me and ask me question, say flirty and funny things, etc

 

A lot of other things I've read said if a girl likes you, she seeks you out or follows you, plays with her hair, etc, looks at you all the time...she doesn't do these things. But there's all these other things. 

 

Are "signs" universal, like all of these things need to occur? Like it needs to be a b and c and x y and z or can it be combinations of things?

 

I think she's just being friendly, but I'm inexperienced. Everyone else is saying no, she's definitely testing the waters and hinting

Edited March 7 by Gulf-Delta

[Gebidozo]

5 minutes ago, Gulf-Delta said:

Are "signs" universal, like all of these things need to occur? Like it needs to be a b and c and x y and z or can it be combinations of things?

Of course not.

Each person is different and the signs are also different and depend on a myriad of factors, such as character, temperament, moral code, cultural upbringing, past experiences, current life goals, mood, and so on, and so forth.

Please never take this kind of idiocy seriously:

8 minutes ago, Gulf-Delta said:

A lot of other things I've read said if a girl likes you, she seeks you out or follows you, plays with her hair, etc, looks at you all the time

 

Regarding your specific case, it does indeed look like she might be interested in you - or she might just enjoy flirting. What I don’t quite understand is why you don’t simply ask her out on a date. Surely this is a much more efficient way to find out whether she is interested or not than asking the opinions of strangers on the internet?

[Gulf-Delta]

16 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

What I don’t quite understand is why you don’t simply ask her out on a date. Surely this is a much more efficient way to find out whether she is interested or not than asking the opinions of strangers on the internet?

Because I don't know what she's feeling or where her head is at. 

If she's in the "testing waters" or just putting a feeler out, I want to match that pace....in the past, I've let anxiety get the better of me and jump the gun too soon

 

I'll look stupid if I ask her out on a date and she's just being personable and nice. If she's putting out "hey I'm kind of interested" I wanna put out the same, not invite her out alone...yet. we're still fairly strangers. We are comfortable kind of, but the relationship (I mean knowing each other, not romantic relationship) is still new. She's still fairly new and we've only just broken the seal on talking. I dint wanna shoot in the dark or make asusmptions. Also another guy I work with was very obviously and crigingly hitting on her and I think he asked her out and she said no. I don't wanna be another guy like him

 

We don't work together often (different departments) so I'm torn in just letting chemistry grow naturally, or like "pushing" it.

 

Oh, she also touched my butt the other day, but was probably an accident (???)

But I thought abiut just buying her a little ttreat (like a pack of Starburst, she's always eating them) just to be like "yeah, I see you and I'm on the same page"

 

Also afraid of being rejected again, seems to always happen with girls I like

 

I wanna reciprocate but at an..."appropriate" pace.

Edited March 7 by Gulf-Delta