She seems to lack interest but still wants to keep contact?

[Tylerchu]

Hi all,

Late last year I went on a few dates with a 25F where we held hands and kissed briefly. After that, it seemed hard to meet her again. I would ask her out and she would say yes, but then continuously pushed it back week by week. Eventually she told me she liked another guy.

Fair enough, so I stopped contact and in January I went overseas for a holiday. When I came back I decided to randomly message her and she seemed happy I had reached out. She suggested meeting up so we did. And she told me she broke it off with the other guy because he was selfish.

Shortly after this she went back to her home country for a week and she showed me a photo of the birthday present I got for her before. She had taken it with her and placed it in her room at home. I said I thought she threw it away and she asked why she would do that because it's cute. So in my awkward type of flirting ways, I jokingly said "so you think I'm cute" and she said no way and it was outrageous of me to say that.

Since then her texting appears to be short and abrupt. She will answer me but never asks anything about me. We went out twice, including one time where it was the day after Valentines Day so I got her a rose.

However I got fed up with her "one way" texting style so I deactivated my instagram. But two days later she reached out to me on another app to ask why I disappeared on instagram. I made up some excuse and then we went back to texting on instagram.

I asked her out for this past weekend and she agreed. We confirmed what time I would pick her up and what we would eat. 

I was meant to pick her up at 6:45pm but at 4:30am she texted to say her friend was sick and she needed to stay home to look after her, but she wanted to meet the following week. I thought this was an excuse because it was similar to what she did to me the first time where she kept pushing our dates back.

So I left her on unread and then about 4 hours before our scheduled date she messaged me again asking me to read the message. So I just replied with "yeah sure" and that's where we're at now.

So it seems like she's not that interested in me but she still wants to stay in touch. My question is why? Why did she reach out to me after I deactivated my instagram? Why did she cancels the date at the last minute? Why did she want to make sure I had read the message?

If she doesn't like me then why agree to the date at all?

[ExpatInItaly]

34 minutes ago, Tylerchu said:

So it seems like she's not that interested in me but she still wants to stay in touch. My question is why?

Because she likes having someone to fill the void until she meets the next guy she wants to date. 

Don't keep doing this to yourself. Cut your losses now. It's going to end the same way it did before. 

[Acacia98]

2 hours ago, Tylerchu said:

If she doesn't like me then why agree to the date at all?

Because she enjoys the attention.

[smackie9]

When someone puts you in second place, you leave them in last place....

[FredEire]

One word: attention.

Don't be part of her fan club until she meets someone she really wants to date/bang.

I have a rule for myself in dating now I wish I'd followed more in my 20s: one cancellation/rescheduling is acceptable, s*** can happen. Any more than that and/or she's generally acting flaky and hot/cold, and bye-bye!

I think you should do something similar, you're worth more than that.