CorBlimey. Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Corblimey, why thank you for that useless post. Your welcome. Just had to voice my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DepressedWaiting Posted March 13, 2006 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 NO, NO , and NO. BIG no. What he can't stand is the way I interrogate him for hours. He says he hasn't had sex with his wife in six months, I kept telling him that's bullsh*t. He says he can't live without me, I again tell him that bullsh*t. How words mean nothing, prove it to me with action. This escalates with HIM getting FURIOUS! He gets angry because he says no matter what he says to me I never believe him and bombard him with it. He has NOT discovered ANY hidden traists whatsoever. I am not discussing this aspect further because those comments were way off. You don't understand. I know EXACTLY what I'm talking about in regards to this specific aspect. Just forget it. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 He's forty-five. Your twenty years younger than him (which makes you 25). And you say you've known him for thirteen years…which means since the age of twelve (???) More alarming than following your story and helplessly observing as you continually subject yourself to such emotional and physical indignities, is the idea that this sad excuse for a human being has basically been the center of your world since a very impressionable young age. No wonder you're unable to reinvent your life absent his toxic presence. You've never know anything different. It could be that life and love (in your experience) never existed before him or outside of him, and therefore it would make more sense why you are having such a difficult time imagining how it could possible exist after him. It would certainly explain why you have grown up thinking that emotional abuse, need and obsession is the same thing as "love." My G-d, where were (are) your parents? … Your family?? I shutter to imagine the deeper implications of this, so please correct me if I'm jumping to conclusions and assuming too much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DepressedWaiting Posted March 13, 2006 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 You are assuming far too much. Yes, I have known him since I was 12 (actually probably it was 13 or 14 I don't really remember) however there is absolutely NOTHING... absolutely NOTHING gross or strange going on with that. I simply knew him back then. I am 26 years old now. I didn't even lose my virginity until I was 22 yrs old... didn't even become involved with him until I was 22! I'm going to stop posting here completely if this continues. It is very annoying. Some of the responses and thoughts here are so off base it's not even funny. VERY way off and completely incorrect. Can someone close this thread? Link to post Share on other sites
Ladylay Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 I'm going to stop posting here completely if this continues. It is very annoying. Some of the responses and thoughts here are so off base it's not even funny. VERY way off and completely incorrect. Sorry you feel that way, D.W. It is hard when you are sitting in front of a screen reading posts. It is hard for you to express every detail. Only you know what is going on, what you have lived are living through. It is not our fault we are off base here, We dont live with you, we know only the snippetts you tell us, naturally we will make assumptions. I wish you well, whatever you decide. Link to post Share on other sites
foolinlove Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 DW, I am a similar situation that you are. I too knew my MM since I was very young, nothing happend until later....needless to say, he is much older than I am, however it has not changed my love. I have read thru some of this post and felt VERY bad for you when he threw you under the bus, when you have known each other for SOOO long. Just over the weekend, I found out that MM had been lieing to me. He moved out of his home on 2 different occasions, this time he claims it is the end. He knows where he went wrong before and he is going to do it right this time. Well, he has done things a bit different. He doesn't go over to the home very night for dinner, he stay at home in the evening, cooking his own dinner, talking to me, spending time with me. Then his lies catch up with him and I hit a breaking point. He had stayed over there 2 different weekends that I know of. THis kills me because the only thing holding the divorce up is HER holding on, well now I know why, because he is giving her something to hold onto. Let me say, that even if your man leaves, it does not get any better. It only gets worse. Because YOU become the one that he is lieing to. YOU become the insecure one. YOU are left to pick of the pieces of your life when he is too big of a coward to make a decision for himself. Girl, PLEASE, walk away from that man. You have given him 2 years, I have given much more and feel like the biggest fool that ever lived for thinking I would be different. I gave EVERYTHING to this man, my heart, soul, and tears. And how was I repayed....by him shifting the blame on me, him telling me I HAVE PROBLEMS, when he is the LIAR. We are young, we are smart, we don't need these men. I'm sorry if i'm coming on a bit strong, but I am REALLY hurting right now, and I feel so alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DepressedWaiting Posted March 13, 2006 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 foolinlove, Sorry for what you're going through. I know exactly what you're going through. Except my MM has not been leaving and going back and forth. My MM would never leave his house and then go back. He would never leave his house in the first place. It's his house. There is NO doubt he would receive it in a divorce (I know this for certain, too long to explain). It's his wife that would have to move out and leave the house either on her own or by court order when the divorce is being finanailzed. She has already volunteered to move into a condo an hour away in the past not long ago. But I'd rather have this thread closed. Yes, peope don't know me, people don't know my MM and it's VERY tough to come to a forum and post and get accurate responses all the time. It's frustratiing. I'd rather have this thread closed. I already know EXACTLY what I need to do with my specific situation. I'll start a new one when I have an update. Hope you feel better. I know the unbearable pain you're gong through Link to post Share on other sites
lovernotafighter Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 dw I am fairly new here and have been reading your posts,I wish you the best of luck..you deserve to finally be happy,I really hope that happens for you. most of us here are in a situation the people around us whould shake us and ask it we are crazy...the thing is love is crazy. and I am sure none of us are our selfs in our situations or we wouldn't be on these boards hurting in the first place. keep you chin up. Link to post Share on other sites
No Stress Lady Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 DW - this is one of the unhealthiest situations I've ever seen on this forum - reading your posts I thought you sounded about 45 - I am gobsmacked to hear that you are 25, have wasted and are continuing to waste some of the best years of your life. And as other posters have asked: WHERE has your family been through this whole sorry saga? I seriously think you need some form of counselling to help you get out of and away from this situation because: YOU ARE WASTING YOUR LIFE with this creep. You get ONE life - do you really want to look back and just see a big mess????? You are young enough to make a new start. YOU have a CHOICE. When will you wake up? Forget this ridiculous "decision date" - forget all this BS about "who you really are" - forget about this manipulative, lying, cheating man - this relationship is toxic and will only bring you to your knees in the future. Get to a counsellor, and start living the life you deserve. Apologies for the capital letters and the harsh words but believe me, you need to stop this relationship right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DepressedWaiting Posted March 13, 2006 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 I'm not wasting my life on him anymore. I AM moving forward. I've begun starting the business of my dreams. I'm already running and own a successful business from home but it's not the business I want. So I've seriously begun the clothing manufacturing business that I've always wanted. It's extremely difficult, and keeping me very busy. Sucking up all my focus instead of him. I WAS putting my life on hold and wasted two years but NOT anymore. I don't even want a man in my life right now... it's him or nothing right now. I'm not interested in having a man in my life. I prefer to take care of business first before pursuing such routes. I'm doing perfectly fine now.. yes I'm in pain but I'm not letting it consume me. In amercian languarge F*CK him! BUT, again for the zillionth time, I am ending this and dealing with this situation MY way. The way that I (personally) need to deal with it. And that is to... simply move on with my life... let him set a deadline and allow him a chnace to fail or prove me wrong... and that will be the end of it. Plain and simple. But yes, I'll be damned if I let some man ruin my life because he's a weak selfish coward. Trust me. I HAVE already woken up. I have believe it or not. BUT, right now for ME... walking away isn't what I even want to do. I NEED to do what I was saying above and END this the way that I personally need to. But it will happen SOONER than later... trust me on that one. P.S- But I'm 26... not 25. Just turned 26 a few days ago. Link to post Share on other sites
No Stress Lady Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Well DW I just hope for your sake that you really can let go when this date you have set comes and goes. The sooner you put this guy out of your head the better. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author DepressedWaiting Posted March 13, 2006 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 Thanks, yes the sooner the better. But believe me... I fully understand this must stop a.s.a.p. I just REALLY need to do this my way. I'm 100% positive of how I need to do this. I will start a new thread with an update... maybe betetr to let this insane thread die. Its actually almost a 3 month old thread. Things HAVE gotten much better since. Yikes. P.S- I can honestly without a doubt say that I will be able to let go when that date rolls around and no action has taken place. 100% absolutely positive. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 Ok, you sound much better now. I hope you will have lots of success in your business. I think you will be much happier overall if you're busy and passionate about your work. It will greatly raise your self-esteem too. You are too young to stick to the first guy you slept with. This world is big, there are many men out there waiting for you. Forget this married man who's playing games with you. You're young and full of life; he's been where you haven't gone yet. You need to explore things on your own without somebody suffocating you with his experience when you feel like you could move the earth with your bare hands. I wish you lots of love and joy in the times to come! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 I posted something in the wrong place... sorry! Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 Some excellent posts by no stress lady and record producer in this thread! just had to say that, since theres no rep system anymore. and happy birthday rp! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Some excellent posts by no stress lady and record producer in this thread! just had to say that, since theres no rep system anymore. and happy birthday rp! Aww,thanks, Newbby! Link to post Share on other sites
Author DepressedWaiting Posted March 20, 2006 Author Share Posted March 20, 2006 Can someone please close this thread? This is a 4 month old thread and it keeps getting dug up from the grave. Link to post Share on other sites
Ladylay Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Can someone please close this thread? This is a 4 month old thread and it keeps getting dug up from the grave. :lmao: You are such a drama Queen "your words" Link to post Share on other sites
No Stress Lady Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 :lmao: You are such a drama Queen "your words" LMAO - "Dug up" by DW - TODAY......... :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 5, 2006 Share Posted April 5, 2006 Ok here is a situation I came across the other day...besides the posts that I only relate in a surreal whelm. Open minds hear my call. Walking with my dog. Had to 'go'. Enjoying the evening air, nothing in particular on my mind except to allow the dog to do its thing. Did, ok. Then decided to take a short cut towards home. This particular short cut my walk home so that I am now walking thru others door stop areas. No major. Its quiet, and the time spent is reflection now that I am nearing my door. Lo and behold I of course am looking down at my lil doggy and what do I see that captures my eye? A light bright color of fresh. And I see, "Hi I'm matt." Imagine. What ingenuity. Difference. Look and appeal. Attention. And to think I could of missed this bright spark! But I didn't. Lucky me. A smile to my face! I casually smiled, many if I hadn't taken a 'different route'. I love that when that happens. I thought to myself "take it, time, yesterday, today, and tomorrow, and you know what I did next? I walked right over it. Isn't that how it is/was. Could be. Wanna be. Should be. And nobody but me and my dog. I thought it was the silliest but simply the cutest form of connection. Have a slow walk folks, you never know what you'll see, or why, and why not? Wonder what his/her last name is? Original. Cute. Classic. Doors are for opening OR closing. Link to post Share on other sites
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