Glenn Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 I'm 55 with the children, all boys 8, 13 and 15 years old that lives with me. I'm divorced since 3 years from a 20 year marriage. One and a half years ago a met a woman and fell in love at first sight. She is the same age, has three daughters 20, 23 and 24 years old that lives with her. We live 45 minutes from each other. We only meet on Saturdays. She come to me around 4 in the afternoon and leave the following day at noon. The reason she always come to me is that she says her daughters doesn't allow her to have a man in the house. She has been divorced for 2 years so I really can't see why I shouldn't be allowed in the house. I want a real relationship and I have told her what we have is more like a lovers relationship. When I ask if she can see me other days in the week, it is alway a problem. She says she don't have time because she must cook, clean etc for her daughters or that she has work todo I've been thinking of ending the relationship many times, but I do really love her and she says she loves me too. We come from different cultures (I'm Swedish and she is Italian), but I find it hard to believe that kids are allowed to dictate the house rules like that, or that kids as old as her wouldn't allow their mother to be happy in a new relationship. All her daughters have romantic relationships so they know what this means. She has met my sons and have a good relationship with them and she sees they are helping at home. I have met one of her daughters a few times, but the others, I never met. Isn't this a very strange situation? I'm lost and do not know what todo any more. I would really appreciate opinions, especially from women with kids at home. Link to post Share on other sites
livingalife2009 Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 This sounds very strange but what’s acceptable in one culture is not acceptable in others. You have been together long enough to know what you want in a relationship, if this doesn’t work for you, you will have to change something. How about inviting all her children to dinner at your house so you get the feeling of how they feel about you? Maybe one or more of her children are not mentally fit but she doesn’t want to tell you because she is afraid of pushing you away. Since you like her very much and she gets along with your children, I would do everything to get to know her children and then go from there. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted March 14 Share Posted March 14 Yes it's a very strange situation and you should trust your gut if you feel that something isn't right about it. I can't help but think that it sounds like she is lying to you about something, and that's why she is being so evasive about fully integrating you into her life. She's keeping you a secret, and there's a reason for that. Maybe she is not single, and you are actually an affair partner. Link to post Share on other sites
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