Author sunny_ Posted March 18 Author Posted March 18 4 hours ago, BaileyB said: If this is true, you need to reconsider this as a romantic relationship. I would want more than this from the man I am dating… The fact that you mostly talk about what happened at work that day sounds like a conversation that would happen between two acquaintances, much less two people who are in a romantic relationship. He sounds uninterested and not invested. I think he’s lost feelings for me already
ExpatInItaly Posted March 19 Posted March 19 8 hours ago, sunny_ said: I know it’s my fault mostly bc I’m overthinking and questioning stuff all the time I would wager that this is only part of it. You also spend significant amounts of time apart. That just doesn't work for everyone. It wouldn't work for me, either, which is why I don't do long-distance. I know I wouldn't be able to maintain much interest if I were spending months apart from the man I am dating. My guess is that it's a combination of your questioning and the plain difficult logistics. How long have you been together, and how often do you see each other in person? You say you have secured a contract in NYC for September - are those moving plans already in motion, then? Meaning, have you started looking for housing, getting whatever work papers you may need lined up, and so on?
BaileyB Posted March 19 Posted March 19 I’m just saying, I wouldn’t be moving to NYC right now. There is no security in the US for anyone holding any kind of visa. Times have certainly changed… 1
ClearEyes-FullHeart Posted March 21 Posted March 21 I live in the US (California) and agree with BaileyB, do NOT plan to come to the US. I would not even travel here. The world needs to boycott the US in all ways to help make the criminals (Elon, the other tech billionaires etc etc, the elected officials in DC) hurt. The government is fascist now, with a lawless regime. It’s vile and not looking great for a turnaround, though I sure hope it does.
BaileyB Posted March 21 Posted March 21 I hope it improves too, but I don’t see that happening in the next four years. I know many Canadians who have cancelled travel plans to the US (myself included). Snowbirds are selling their winter homes. There was a story in the news this week of a Canadian who was detained and deported trying to enter the US with a certain kind of visa that would normally be renewed at the border. I never thought I would see this day, but here it is…
ExpatInItaly Posted March 21 Posted March 21 7 hours ago, BaileyB said: I know many Canadians who have cancelled travel plans to the US (myself included). Snowbirds are selling their winter homes. I'm Canadian as well (though live abroad, obviously) and I can confirm that my family back in Ontario have also cancelled all plans to make their usual trips to the US. Some of my colleagues here in Italy have also changed their travel plans and want nothing to do with the US as it is right now. OP, relationship issues aside a moment - please carefully reconsider your future prospects in NYC, as the others have already rightfully pointed out. Things are not the way they used to be.
ShyViolet Posted March 23 Posted March 23 This guy very much sounds like he has lost feelings and is getting bored of the relationship. You should not make any major life changes for this guy. This is what often happens when there is such long periods of not being able to be together in person. The relationship just loses steam. 1
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