mayo88 Posted March 17 Share Posted March 17 (edited) So I've been hanging out with a friend of mine for 5 months at least once a week. We have texted everyday since meeting each other 5 months ago. After a few months of hanging out she admitted to me she had feelings for me. I took her out on 4 dates and things looked great. She has been emotionally disconnected from me I feel latley. We have had sex. Over the past couple of weeks I feel she has been a bit more distant. So I asked her does she have romantic feelings for me. She said she doesn't know. She said she doesn't want a relationship now but her goal in the next year is to have a boyfriend. I told her I have romantic feelings for her and I love hanging out with her. It always seems like we hangout on her terms and sleep together on her terms. I hanged out with her yesterday and went for a walk and I feel there's still something there Ive decided I'm gonna to be a bit distant now as things aren't really progressing and she isn't texting me as much as before. I asked her around to hangout a couple of times last week and she made excuses that she's tired and grumpy. I'm not sure if I should tell her how I feel or just leave it be as I have kinda told her. I haven't told her I would like a relationship with her but I have said I have romantic feelings for her. I feel that she has either lost the feelings or there friend feelings if that makes sense. Any advice would be appreciated 🙂 Edited March 17 by mayo88 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted March 18 Share Posted March 18 19 hours ago, mayo88 said: So I asked her does she have romantic feelings for me. She said she doesn't know. this is your answer, you asked if she has feelings for you and she's saying "no" - any answer other than "yes" is a no. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 19 Share Posted March 19 It sounds to me like she has lost some interest in you. I am not sure that confessing your feelings now will move the dial very much at this point, as it sounds like that ship might have sailed. She might also be talking to someone else. Hard to say. On 3/18/2025 at 12:16 AM, mayo88 said: I took her out on 4 dates and things looked great. How long ago was rhe last date? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author mayo88 Posted March 19 Author Share Posted March 19 The last date was 1.5 months ago. She went overseas a week ago and bought me a fridge magnet 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author mayo88 Posted March 19 Author Share Posted March 19 I think I'll become less available and slow down on texting her. I don't want to cut her off as I see her as a fun friend Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted Saturday at 03:11 PM Share Posted Saturday at 03:11 PM On 3/18/2025 at 11:20 PM, mayo88 said: The last date was 1.5 months ago. She went overseas a week ago and bought me a fridge magnet Dude...stop clinging onto something that ain't gonna happen. She lost interest...it happens. I have been in her shoes, she gave it a shot, no feelings grew from it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted Saturday at 06:41 PM Share Posted Saturday at 06:41 PM On 3/18/2025 at 11:21 PM, mayo88 said: I think I'll become less available and slow down on texting her. I don't want to cut her off as I see her as a fun friend Probably best. Sounds like she lost interest in that 1.5 months since the last date. Keeping in touch might keep you hung up on her and prevent you from meeting other people Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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