SoCooked Posted March 22 Share Posted March 22 Hey I’ve been going through some issues with my relationship recently and need some help from honestly anyone. I am 15 male and a sophomore in high school, I have known my girlfriend since 3rd grade but we never talked too much. We both have done swimming together and grown closer the past two years and have liked each other in our pasts, and a couple months ago we started the talking stage. After a month of that I asked her to be my girlfriend and she seemed ecstatic, we just passed our first month of dating but we still don’t talk that much. I kinda figured that we would start talking more when we started dating but I guess not. We are both very busy and in my attempts to go on dates or even just hang out there has been no time to do so. And to make it all better, when we text she just seems like she doesn’t want to talk to me. I really like this girl and she is best friends with my twin sister. The more I think about it the more I wonder if she actually likes me back. What do I do, this is my first relationship and I am not sure what I’m supposed to do. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 22 Share Posted March 22 54 minutes ago, SoCooked said: I kinda figured that we would start talking more when we started dating but I guess not. We are both very busy and in my attempts to go on dates or even just hang out there has been no time to do so. How are you "dating" when you don't talk much and don't go on dates? Do you mean that you decided to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend? Because there doesn't seem to be much of a relationship here. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted March 22 Share Posted March 22 (edited) Not so long ago my daughter was your age. See, girls that age like to talk about `having a boyfriend` more then actually having a boyfriend. Sometimes I think they just like having the title. At 15 my daughter had a boyfriend but she only saw him at school. Also, your girlfriend's parents may be monitoring who she texts and where she goes. When we don't feel good in a relationship we don't pursue it. You will have many girlfriends in your life and you have to learn to end it when the relationship does not bring you joy. Edited March 22 by Gaeta Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted March 22 Share Posted March 22 Make sure to ask her out on a date, even if it's not the same week. Plan ahead and let her enjoy the anticipation. Save some money and think about where to go and what to do. This will give you something to talk about in the days leading up to it. To decide on the details, you'll need to know her preferences (what she likes, etc.). I think it's important to spend time together in person early on. Once you're both more comfortable with each other, communicating when you're not physically together will become easier. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 I'm confused, so when you ask her to go on a date with you or hang out with you, she won't? Make an honest attempt to make plans to hang out with her. If she makes excuses and avoids seeing you, then she's not your girlfriend. If she barely talks to you and won't hang out with you, then put an end to this fake relationship and stop wasting your time. Link to post Share on other sites
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