hercules22 Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 all started from eye contact to small talk etc then i didn't see her in the gym for 4 weeks we both wondered where each of us were had few long conversations to where we exchanged socials then started to work out each other schedule eventually i ended up asking her out on a date which she accepted seemed like it went well alot of eye contact no awkward silences had lunch together then grabbed ice cream with a small walk afterwards i figured if she wasn't keen she could bailed after lunch or ice cream. i texted her that i had great time and would be happy to have another date to get to know her more only for her to say she wasn't really sure at this stage then she says she will see me in the gym for sure haven't seen her for a week no idea if she tried to come across me in the gym or avoid me now , she does have a holiday planned for her birthday coming up first week of april. i feel like maybe she trying to let me down easy but not really sure when i responded to her text i said oh is it because you have holidays planned did i catch you at a bad time she only liked my response i left her alone after that wanted to see how she acts when she sees me at the gym. she still watches my instagram stories. Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 Hmmmm… the date sounds like it went well! but, *not really sure at this stage* is giving me the … trying to let you down but kindly vibe. Also, just *liking* the message and not trying to continue on with a chat also gives …. I’m trying to be nice but I’m just not that bothered sorry OP! You’ll find someone nicer 😎 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hercules22 Posted March 23 Author Share Posted March 23 2 minutes ago, Georgia46 said: Hmmmm… the date sounds like it went well! but, *not really sure at this stage* is giving me the … trying to let you down but kindly vibe. Also, just *liking* the message and not trying to continue on with a chat also gives …. I’m trying to be nice but I’m just not that bothered sorry OP! You’ll find someone nicer 😎 Hmm should i try avoid her at the gym now i guess i left it in her hands whether she wants to continue in my response i said if i’m still available we could give it a go Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 6 minutes ago, hercules22 said: Hmm should i try avoid her at the gym now i guess i left it in her hands whether she wants to continue in my response i said if i’m still available we could give it a go Nahhh don’t avoid her. you’ve left the ball in her court now. play it cool. see how it goes… and see who else comes along 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 2 hours ago, hercules22 said: Hmm should i try avoid her at the gym now i guess i left it in her hands whether she wants to continue in my response i said if i’m still available we could give it a go Just act normally around her if/when you two have contact again. And focus on trying to meet other people. And to be honest the gym really isn't a great local to be looking for dates. Most women are there to get a workout done and don't really want to be bothered by men or feel like they need to look attractive for them there. It's why workout locations solely for women have begun to come about. It's much better to meet someone who likes working out at a different outlet and then you can make plans to go to the gym together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 Well you gave it a shot....she's not that into you...can't win them all. Link to post Share on other sites
enterthevoid Posted March 23 Share Posted March 23 (edited) Quote she wasn't really sure at this stage then she says she will see me in the gym for sure Not sure = No. Anything that isn't a yes is a no. She may be interested in being acquaintances with you, but she's not interested in dating you., Edited March 23 by enterthevoid 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author hercules22 Posted March 23 Author Share Posted March 23 10 hours ago, Sony12 said: Just act normally around her if/when you two have contact again. And focus on trying to meet other people. And to be honest the gym really isn't a great local to be looking for dates. Most women are there to get a workout done and don't really want to be bothered by men or feel like they need to look attractive for them there. It's why workout locations solely for women have begun to come about. It's much better to meet someone who likes working out at a different outlet and then you can make plans to go to the gym together. Yeah i know i honestly dont look for dates from there even though i find alot people i may be interested in im mostly there for myself to train but i connected well with her so now im sort of on the fence if i should try with someone else there lol Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 24 Share Posted March 24 Trust me, if she were interested in seeing you again, she would have responded quite differently. I wouldn't waste more time on this, OP. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 24 Share Posted March 24 8 hours ago, hercules22 said: so now im sort of on the fence if i should try with someone else there lol If you do try this, just make sure it's someone who doesn't know the first woman, or who trains at a different time. Women talk. And you don't want to be the guy who gets a reputation for hitting on different women at the gym Link to post Share on other sites
Author hercules22 Posted March 31 Author Share Posted March 31 On 3/24/2025 at 4:59 PM, ExpatInItaly said: Trust me, if she were interested in seeing you again, she would have responded quite differently. I wouldn't waste more time on this, OP. yeah i haven't spoke to her until today when i bumped into her she said she hasn't been training much was sick we were talking for a bit she leaving for holidays in 5 days she put up story later on in evening with some guy from her dance class maybe has gone on date with him wouldn't surprise me she does salsa/bachata i think people date people from those sorts of activities Link to post Share on other sites
FredEire Posted March 31 Share Posted March 31 On 3/23/2025 at 7:52 AM, hercules22 said: all started from eye contact to small talk etc then i didn't see her in the gym for 4 weeks we both wondered where each of us were had few long conversations to where we exchanged socials then started to work out each other schedule eventually i ended up asking her out on a date which she accepted seemed like it went well alot of eye contact no awkward silences had lunch together then grabbed ice cream with a small walk afterwards i figured if she wasn't keen she could bailed after lunch or ice cream. i texted her that i had great time and would be happy to have another date to get to know her more only for her to say she wasn't really sure at this stage then she says she will see me in the gym for sure haven't seen her for a week no idea if she tried to come across me in the gym or avoid me now , she does have a holiday planned for her birthday coming up first week of april. i feel like maybe she trying to let me down easy but not really sure when i responded to her text i said oh is it because you have holidays planned did i catch you at a bad time she only liked my response i left her alone after that wanted to see how she acts when she sees me at the gym. she still watches my instagram stories. Not sure = not interested usually Link to post Share on other sites
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