After 4 years of relationship, I find out my girlfriend is 48 instead of 27

[Julian2233]

I am a 26 old guy, I've been dating my girlfriend for 4 years now, and she always claimed to be born in april '98, just to find out a picture of her passport in her laptop where is actually '77. What exactly should I do? I am preatty much in panic now. I never suspected anything because to me she actually looks like she is 27 instead of 48, however there has been a few red flags during our time together that I chose to ignore since I was inexperienced ( it is my first long term relationship)

1. She is very obsessed about her skin, and appearence in general

2. All her friends are significantly older than 27. most of them in their late 30 or early 40. However I never had the chance to meet any of them, despite me introducing her to all my friends and parents

3. Everytime I asked her to see any documnts such as Passport/ID she refused to show me using silly excuses and trying to avoid the subject

Moreover I found on her laptop a picture of a positive pregnancy test just 3/4 months before we met, but actually she was never pregnant.

Any suggestion?

[tzorno]

What???

My suggestion,,,,,,RUN.  What does she have to offer you?  You are just starting in life and she is middle aged.  Not only is the age difference massive (she could be your mother), she kept it from you and was dishonest.  

Nothing good can come of this.  Get out.

 

 

[ExpatInItaly]

6 hours ago, Julian2233 said:

there has been a few red flags during our time together that I chose to ignore since I was inexperienced

I find it very hard to believe you couldn't tell the difference between a 48-year.old and a 27-year-old. Come on, man. How much of that did you choose to ignore too? 

I am a youngish-looking 44 year old, I stay in good shape, take good care of myself, dress well, still attract male attention - but there is no way anyone would believe I am 20 years younger. Based on questions you'd asked her, it is clear you have had your suspicions for a while that she is not a spring chicken. 

It's time to run a mile. 

[stillafool]

Break up with her.  She's a liar and a trickster.  You are perfectly within your rights to let her go.

[Lauriebell82]

On 4/16/2025 at 3:43 PM, ExpatInItaly said:

I find it very hard to believe you couldn't tell the difference between a 48-year.old and a 27-year-old. Come on, man. How much of that did you choose to ignore too? 

I am a youngish-looking 44 year old, I stay in good shape, take good care of myself, dress well, still attract male attention - but there is no way anyone would believe I am 20 years younger. Based on questions you'd asked her, it is clear you have had your suspicions for a while that she is not a spring chicken. 

It's time to run a mile. 

I was thinking this too! I am a 42 year old woman and look young for sure but not by 20 years! I couldn't pass for 27. I've gotten early to mid 30's. 

I agree with everyone else-this is a pretty big lie over a LONG period of time. Time to break up with her! Nothing justifies it! 

[Alvi]

I am 47 years-old woman and everybody tells me that I look way younger than my age. People are surprised when I tell them how old I am. But there is no way in hell that I look 27. Tell her to pass her youth formula to me, if she has one, lol. She must be a vampire.  I am curious how you couldn't figure out a lot sooner that she is a lot older. She must have different interests/hobbies or did she talk about things when she did when she was younger (like a very very long ago)? Does she has kids or grandkids? She is probably in full-blown perimenopause or menopaused already and you haven't noticed anything odd about her? Did the two of you discussed kids or long term plans?  Wow, 4 years.

Anyway, just end the relationship. Don't know what else to say.

P.S. Are you sure it's her picture that you found and not her mother's or her aunt's? They could have the same first and the last name.

On 4/16/2025 at 7:25 AM, Julian2233 said:

Moreover I found on her laptop a picture of a positive pregnancy test just 3/4 months before we met, but actually she was never pregnant

Not necessarily her pregnancy test. Could be anything. 

[tzorno]

You didn't see all the AARP mail laying around?  Lol.