too impatient?

[hiraka]

I have been with my current boyfriend (long distance of course) for I suppose 6 months now. It has been almost 3 months since his first visit (we split all costs excluding plane ticket which he took care of). We both meet online playing a mmorpg. Although he is 7 years younger than me, we seem to both have a similar mindset. We both feel dating is to find a life partner, not just something to do for kicks.

 

What worries me is not just that he still lives at home, but that he has no future or financial stability. He has no work and is not currently in school (cause of anxiety problems in the past...hard to explain). Either way, he says he wants to get work and eventually return to school, but he hasn't gotten around to it. I have brought up the subject before in the past, but never went as far as asking time frame for him to do those things...

 

We care for each other deeply and have many things in common and great fun whether we are playing the game we meet each other in online, other games, watching movies from netflix at the same time, or otherwise.

 

In the past I have been in 2 relationships that lasted 2 years and one that lasted 7 years. All went no where. Either the guys were deadbeats (more like a child liability and stupid to boot) or the love was lost over time from lack of romantic feelings...

 

I really care for my boyfriend a lot and hope that I may have finally meet my match. Never before have I been so open with someone and been able to be so open even in person. The whole online experience was new to be and I think it did us good to be able to talk a lot before meeting in person. I feel he cares for me the same by some of his actions and that he really wants things to work as well, but he is lacking something I feel is very important. Financial and future stability. I currently work... (got one after breaking up with my ex who I was with for 7 years) and have plans to return to school for my degree. I do live in a house my mom provides for me and he lives at home... not much a difference there other than my mom doesn't live with me but she still provides for me.

 

I really want to find that special someone and I think it is him only because I have never had so much in common with anyone else before or ever been so open with how I felt. But there is that one thing lacking... We have talked about it and he says it is something he wants to do... but hasn't done yet. Am I being too pushy? Do I need to just let time be the determining factor? I don't want to go through another 2+ year relationship to find out things wouldn't work out and I knew it long ago... Time is running out for having a family... Am I being unreasonable to think that if the relation goes no where for so long, that it is time to move on regardless of how much I feel for a person if they are lacking? I feel a marriage is not something you can throw away years down the line and say, wrong choice... So you have to select well and select a person with similar beliefs. How much time is reasonable time to wait to see if he kicks his butt in gear?