Is 18 too young? To break up or not...that is the question????

[Danoooosh]

I was travelling overseas and met the love of my life. We were together 6 months when I was living at his house which was the most amazing 6 months of my life. My b/f is not just someone I love with all my heart and soul but he is truly my best friend and the person I can always trust and rely on.

I had to return home to apply for university and I left him there...and now we talk nearly everyday by phone and email. It is sometimes very very hard for me to be away from him. I miss him so much sometimes that it hurts me and it stops me from doing regular things that I used to do which made me happy. Now nothing makes me happy...I feel as if none of my friends compare to him and nothing I do is good without him.

now we are trying to organise him a visa to come and live in my country which could take another 6 months and I've already been away from him for 2 and a half months.

I dont know what to do I feel lost..........

Do you think 18 is too young to wait so long for the one you love. He is very optimistic and although he says it is very hard for him to be away from me he says that being with me in the end is all that matters ...

The problem is my parents have been discouraging the relationship. They believe I shouldnt get stuck on one person and should be free to be with different people as he is the first long relationship I have had (due to the fact of not falling in love until now). Also they dont like the fact that I am planning to move out of the house when he comes here in 6 months to live with him. They just think I'm too young to make these decisions and that I should leave him and try new relationships with people who live here in my country.

I dont know what to do...I really love him and I really want to be with him.

I'm just so confused with what is the right thing to do. I dont want my parents to be dissapointed with me and I also want them to agree with my relationship and support me. It's so hard for me to organise him a visa to come here as it is ...and I miss him so much and I get no support from anyone and sometimes feel lost.

Sometimes I just think I should break up to avoid all the pain of waiting for him to come and to make my parents happy...

What should I do? Break up or not?

[stef]

Do you want to make your parents happy, or do you want to do what you feel is right? My situation isn't that different from yours... I'd just turned 17 when I met my man, we've spent about 10 hours together in the last 19 months (we REALLY have had no choice in this - military + different countries). If you love him, IF YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT IT IS RIGHT, then stay with him... In the end, your parents have to respect that you know what is right for yourself. What's the worst that can happen? I know that if I gave up now, I'd never forgive myself for giving up on my love. I don't know what's gonna happen, but no matter what happens, I won't lose him to circumstance. Be strong. This could be one of the hardest things you ever do - but the second you see him again, you'll know why you've waited.

[substance]

That sounds like exactly my situation, except you have it worse. im 17 and im in a long distance relationship, but at least mine is within a contry. it sounds like you are doing all that it is possible to do to make it all work, and it is so very hard, but you have to focus on the positive aspects. and if you feel that you are best of friends and have a connection, then you should let love carry you to where you want to and need to go. and with your parents, surely they want the best for you, and the most important thing is to let them know that he is the best for you