Sabrina Posted August 10, 2001 Share Posted August 10, 2001 You know when you are with somebody and you just know that there is no other person that will ever replace them. YOu just know that even though the relationship had bad problems That you feel you will end up with them. Is there any hope or truth to that feeling..Please anybody explain. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Mojo Posted August 10, 2001 Share Posted August 10, 2001 hi sabrina, the feeling of "no one ever replacing them" and "ending up with them" is basically part and parcel of not yet being over a person. i don't mean to sound harsh, but the longer you go on thinking these thoughts that are all wonderful in fantasy, but not in reality, the longer it will take you get over this guy. i really don't believe there is any hope whatsoever in believing this. i once had a boyfriend who i thought i would never get over. he was actually my first boyfriend, and the relationship was not a good one. but the times i thought that i would never get over him, were simply because i was not over him yet. then oneday, i met a guy who ran rings around my first boyfriend....the same guy that i thought i would never meet. it was then that i realised i was over my ex, and that there is always something better waiting out there for us. i am living proof that emotions can be very intense. but until you can stop trying to convince yourself that the guy you lost is "The One", you will never live a healthy, happy, emotionally fulfilling life. the process of getting over him will be dragged out a lot longer than necessary if you make a conscious effort to stop thinking these unhealthy thoughts. one thing you are right on is that you don't ever want to replace a person. you cannot replace a person. you can only move on to someone more suited to you and someone who you can have many, many good times with. i know this situation with your boyfriend moving away has gutted you, and i empathise with you. i too know the pain you are feeling. but you must make an effort to stop dwelling. absolutely nothing can be done here. how bad will you feel if you never stop thinking these thoughts and he never comes back? you will have wasted SO much time when you could have spent that time being kind to yourself and moving on. i would also suggest seeing a counsellor, considering you having such a tough time dealing with this. best wishes Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 10, 2001 Share Posted August 10, 2001 I've felt that way before a few times and they ended up with somebody else. But I do know how you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
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