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How do I bypass being the "rebound guy"


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I'm very interested in this woman, I've known for well over a year now. She is comming off of a messy break up with her X and though I would like to start seeing her a soon as possible I understand she needs the time to pick up the peices. I think she shares some of the same feelings I do for her but I want this to work out for a long run. I'm worried about the whole "rebound" thing. She even asked me out today via email. What should I do, wait or see what happens by "making my move" right now?

 

Your ideas will help alot...thank you!

 

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If you do decide to go out with her, take things very, very S L O W.

 

Don't put too much effort into it at the beginning...meaning, don't put all your heart into this girl right away expecting a wonderful relationship or expecting things to go smoothly. Who knows...she may definitely be on the "rebound"...maybe she feels lonely now that she no longer has her ex, and needs you as a companion...for a little while. And once she's back on her on two feet, she may no longer need your company.

 

So the best thing to do is to take it slow, and let things flow naturally. Don't rush her. Maybe you two could start dating casually, and in the meantime, you can still meet and date other girls.

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Before I even clicked on sparkle's reply, my first words to you were going to be "take things real SLOW." Since those were her's as well...I think you have the message.

 

This lady is not ready for anything now but she does need some social contact. You be the enforcer here and make sure she doesn't dive in to anything with you too quickly. If you want this to be a keeper, give her time to heal. Otherwise, you will be a rebound for her...and YOU will be the Weakest Link!!!

 

Guhbye.

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