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[confused101]

ok i kinda dont know what to do ive been going out with this girl for over 2 months and i love her more than anyone ever, she means the world to me but it feels kinda strange going out with her even though ive never meet her in person,we only live about a hour away and i can get to her by train but she doesnt want me meeting her family her excuse is that she doesnt want her mum embrassing her and she says her family is very embrassing and she doesnt think her mum would let me stay the night, and she doesnt bring up meeting me when we are talking its always me but then it just fades away and we start talking about something else.its kinda getting to me now cos i havnt even hugged,kissed or even touched her and it just feel really strange.

 

Another thing is my friends basically they take the piss out of anything they can and most of the time its me cos they find it funny,none of them know im going out with her and would take the piss saying it wont work out,why you going out with her you have never meet her,she could be different in person.Ive told one friend hes one of my best mates and he was going out with this girl that lives about 3 hours away so thats why i told him cos i thought he would understand and i trust him not to tell my friends but now his girlfriend finshed him,and now i dont know if i can still trust him because hes the jealous type and might get jealous because my ldr is working out and his didnt(lasted about 2 weeks).Now i regret telling him cos now hes got her phone number and i dont know why he wanted it and i told her and she didnt want him having her phone number because she doesnt like him very much.I wouldnt care if none of my friends knew i was going out with her but she doesnt she feels like im embrassed going out with her which im not i think im very lucky to be going out with her.

 

So when do you you think i should meet her?was it a mistake going out with her before ive meet her in person? and should i pressure her into meeting up?

 

please help i dont know what to do

(sorry if it doesnt make sense, im not vert good at english)

[FUBARd]

Kay.... this is my first attempt at the advice thing, so bear with me please!

 

I think you should try to meet up with her. It doesn't have to involve meeting her family, in fact it would probably be better if you didn't meet her family on the first "date", you're trying to get to know her first, you can meet the family later. Maybe you could suggest meeting her in her town or something? You could go to her town and maybe you could go to the cinema or something (that's presuming she lives in a town ). Or if she's still not on for that, why not invite her over to yours? You should try to meet up with her, definitely. Don't pressure her into it too much, but try to make it work. And don't listen to friends telling you it won't work, what do they know? There are people who live in different countries that are in relationships, you're lucky in that you live fairly close to her. So keep it going if you think it's right.

 

And your English is fine, I understood everything.

[bluetuesday]

i'd be extremely cautious of someone living only an hour away who doesn't want to meet you. people who meet online usually can't wait to meet up to make it 'real'.

 

my guess is that either she isn't who she says she is (she's a different age, not the person in the picture you've got etc) or she's already dating/married to someone else.

 

she wants to keep it going because she likes the diversion but is pretty sure it would end if you met her, is how it sounds to me.

 

i just don't buy the embarrassing family excuse. she's able to leave the house, right?