My mother acting stupid, again...

[Mike14]

I do not get it, my mother bitches every time I try to interact with a visitor that comes over, it is d*** rediculous!!!!!

A cool person name Steven came over, and he is a huge Final Fantasy fan, which is cool, but if I try to interact with him about parts of a Final Fantasy game, or anything else, she will jerk her hand around making a big frown.

It p***** me off, it is not like I am talking to him about "How to use the bathroom", I mean really!! I do not know what to do anymore!

If there is a way I can get her to stop treating me like a 6 yr old or treating me like I'm a d*** physco, please let me know

THX!!!

[whichwayisup]

How old are you Mike? I am assuming maybe 14 just cuz of the number at the end of your name.

 

Why is she in the room when you have a buddy over? I think you need to just nicely tell her you're not doing anything wrong and could she allow you time with your friends.

 

I completely understand your frustration! She is hovering and probably abit nitpicky with you too, right? I suggest for you to DO more around the house without being asked. Do dishes, take out the garbage. Gotta give a little before you take...Just the normal parent/teen thing. The more you do good things that she sees the less she will have reason to s*** on you. See my point?

 

Also, take a look at this thread. It's aimed abit more towards older children dealing with their mom's, but it could help you as well.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t54049/

[Mike14]

Thank you very much for your reply, I unfortunately try lots of things to get the house cleaned, but I just don't see any appreciation here. I even ask my parents about the parts of the house that need to be cleaned out, but they just don't reply, blaming me later. It can be very frustrating, but, I am just going to keep trying, and my parents should start giving me the proper attention.

Anyway, thanks for mentioning the thread below! Oh, one more thing, I am 14yrs old, I am born back in 1991.

[Lil Honey]

Mike: I'm a bit confused.

 

Why does she allow someone in her house if she isn't going to let him talk about "parts of a Final Fantasy game, or anything else"?

 

What kind of language does Steven use?

 

Do you think she may be putting her hand up, because Steven is talking and you unknowingly interrupted him? (I have a terrible habit of interrupting at times. *sigh* )

 

Since you ask what chores need to be done, they ignore you, then get upset later, suggest a calendar be put on the fridge that schedules when they want which things done. There is no misunderstanding if it's written down - and you will be able to see when things need to be done.

 

I would also sit down with whichever parent is easiest to talk to. Tell them how you feel. Tell them how you want friends over, but also want the freedom to walk off and do/say whatever you want (within reason). They would appreciate you telling them about your friends and they would want to be assured that your friends are good people rather than trouble makers. Point out good grades if you have them, explaining that if you are responsible enough to keep your grades up, you should surely be able to handle some time to yourself.

 

BTW, if Steven is considerably older than you are, your parents may wonder why he needs to spend time with someone who is so much younger. There are a lot of things that parents have to worry about these days . . .

[whichwayisup]

I think you need to talk to your folks. And keep on trying to do the best you can. As you get older, you'll realize you really don't need your parents approval for what makes you happy.

 

And maybe they feel that they don't have to say thanks for cleaning up, because it's just something that has to be done! Though hearing it and showing appreciation is nice to hear once in a while too.

 

How old is Steven? Lil H made an excellent point, especially if the guy is abit older than you. Im' sure your folks are protective of you too...