RZA-Man Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 I'm in full NC mode after getting dumped by my ex gf and making an ass of myself to get her back. However, a friend recommended that writing love letters could be a way to get a second chance. I think it's a lame idea and I'm in no mood to have this girl trample over my emotions again, but I want to know what you guys think. Do love letters work or is it just a really bad idea? Does anyone have experience with this? Link to post Share on other sites
My_Other_I Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 I wouldn't. My experience is that it's only gonna bring memories and emotions back. Whether or not it will bring her back, that's a different story. Write the letters if you feel like it, but don't give it to her. To me (I'm a girl) it would be like begging. If you do get back together, you might give the letters to her then. Until then you are better off saying what's on your mind, as opposed to writing it. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 Hmmm I have a different perspective on written vs spoken words. I have written a lot of letters over the years to my SO's, some were love letters, a lot of them were actually, but never use a love letter when you need a reconciliation letter or a get lost letter. I think the written word has it over the spoken word as you can sit down and formulate your thoughts clearly. You don't tend to forget to say anything and the reader can re-read it. That part makes it of paramount importance to write only what you feel. As you may be called to account later. Maybe. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr.P Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 I wrote my ex a letter in the hope of getting her back, we were still on talking terms but I felt like I had to do more. I sent her an email expressing my true feelings, (was 2 pages in MS Word !!) and 5 weeks later we got back together. I asked her what it was that made her take me back, and it was the really sweet things that I wrote. She was just holding back to see if what I wrote was true. So from my perspective, it works! Although it does depend on the situation, I am now in a situation where sending an email expressing my feelings for her would be a bad idea! Link to post Share on other sites
Candied-Heart Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 I would probably like it, especially if he is the type to not be so forthcoming with 'feelings' talk and all that Jazz. Link to post Share on other sites
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