Sand&Water Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 As it is already evident from the 'Subject Line' of the thread, I've started to develop a liking ( I'd like to call it a 'Crush' ) towards a guy (I'll call him 'J'). Here is my situation (I'll try to keep it brief): I'm currently taking a class (in school) that first began in early September. Along with the class, there is a Tutorial that I always attend. The guy ('J') that teaches the tutorial, in other words a teacher assistant, helps us out with the lecture content & articles and such. Anyways at the start in September, 'J' seemed like a nice person and acted very friendly. If I had any questions, he nicely tried his best to help. Just recently, I've started to develop a little crush for him. Not only that but before, I thought he looked normal like anyone around his age; but now I've started to like his personality and his looks. There is substantial eye contact during class, but... hey I think he does the same for everyone else. I don't know. He's not much older than me - I'm guessing he's between 25-30 (young), but I could be wrong. Plus, I don't know if he has a girlfriend or anything like that. Now, I know that he is my TA and I can't do anything until technically I'm done the course, in April. Right? I know that you can't have relations with a professor, but what about a TA? So, What should I do? How do I know if he's interested? How do I know IF he has a girlfriend? How do I know IF he likes me? Any comment(s), thought(s), feedback(s). Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 How old are you? Just wondering the age difference here. Honestly, I'm betting that the TA has probably been told by school staff NOT to interact inappropriately with students...NO matter what. I don't know, I could be completely wrong too, lol. Either way, I'd be very careful...Try for now to put him out of your head because nothing is going to happen anyway and it will just frustrate you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sand&Water Posted January 18, 2006 Author Share Posted January 18, 2006 Thank you for your reply, whichwayisup. I greatly appreciate it. I've been trying to keep him out of my head for the last few months, now. I already know that its best for me to carry on with my daily routines and not think about him, too much. However, there are times when the contrary occurs. Nonetheless, I'm a very mature person and the age difference (if I only knew how old he is) I don't think will cause a problem. He is, however, very mature and intellectual than most, for his age. By the way, I'm in university so you can already make an educated guess of how old I am. I'll have to wait and see how things go. I know that nothing will come out of it now. I just think it would be nice to be friends first. Friendship is important, and I don't expect anything more than that, at the time being. What signs/signals should I look for to know that its ok to be friends with him? or that he likes me? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Personally I wouldn't try and be friends with someone you're crushing on. It kinda makes things a bit awkward. Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 It's pretty normal to develop a crush on a teacher, but I don't think you're going to get past your feelings by trying to establish a friendship with him. Some universities do have policies against staff dating students. If he's wanting to make a good impression on his superiors, he won't try to mess it up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sand&Water Posted January 22, 2006 Author Share Posted January 22, 2006 Absolutely positive he won't mess up his relations with the superiors; he's too smart for that. I don't know why people think this way? Maybe its a preconcieved notion. Who said anything about dating? There is nothing wrong with getting to know someone, and becoming good acquaintances. Thats all there is to it. Obviously if it doesn't happen then thats okay, since its the pleasure of knowing and learning things about someone thats most important. Just wanted to attain some general opinions, but it seems that the situation was interrupted differently and resulted in some unintended misunderstanding. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 you may convince yourself that you two are just being casually acquainted, or 'friends'; but if you're really crushing on him at the same time, things could get complicated/difficult, especially for you. not saying you're like myself, but its been that way for me in the past. might be best to keep him out of mind, at least till school's out. Link to post Share on other sites
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