AltplanB Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 This isn't happening to me, but i wondered what i would do if it did. What if you got a knock at the door and it was your ex, wanting you back and just wanting to sleep with you immediately and asking for forgiveness and pretty much all the things that you keep hoping they will break down and do? Would you do it? Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 Depends on which ex, and why the breakup occurred in the first place. Some I'd consider, some I wouldn't, but even with those I'd think about it, I'd sure have a long, involved sit-down discussion first to make sure that the issues that caused the breakup in the first place could be resolved. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 Well like Slub said depends on which one. I am involved now, but barring that.......... I may sleep with one of them.. ....but they have to leave after we are done. They cannot come back unless I ask them to. Booty call only! a4a Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 That happened to me, except he was reeking of alcohol and cracked out beyond belief. I don't receive unannounced visitors, ever. Even if it's my parents. So I would call the cops. Of course, considering my ex's this is probably the best option....heh. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 Oh God no. I can't think of a single ex of mine who I'd want to sleep with now, but that's probably because I do need to feel an emotional attachment to someone in order to sleep with them. The process of emotional detachment can take a while, but once it's complete I think it's pretty much impossible to switch back onto that person - even if they've changed for the better and suddenly seem like quite a good deal. I don't know what it is...maybe just a case of your system having become immunised to the person and rejecting the idea of sex with them? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 Depends on why she was coming over. Link to post Share on other sites
skeptik224 Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 In a heartbeat! One of many phenominal things we had was fantastic sex! We'd definately need to have a talk, but perhaps after the sex...just in case. My ex actually did show up at my door about 2 months ago (a month 1/2 after our break-up) She wasn't there to have sex or ask for me back. She was just there because I hadn't called her in a couple of weeks....Got a great, long, huge hug from her that sometimes is worth more than the sex... Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted January 18, 2006 Share Posted January 18, 2006 Nope. No, nay, never. Link to post Share on other sites
Bogun Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 What if you got a knock at the door and it was your ex, wanting you back and just wanting to sleep with you If you dont have a problem with being used for sex go for it. Personally if an ex did this to me, I'd laugh and tell them they had their chance with this hottie and blew it. Link to post Share on other sites
Nikita20 Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 If my ex showed up at my door I would be in total shock. It would be a very gutsy move on his part, especially since I temporarily live with my sister. I would let him in and see what he had to say--I still miss him and love him. However, even if he begged for my forgiveness, proclaimed that he made a mistake and proposed that we get back together, as far as the sex goes, I wouldn't go there with him, because it would be too fast too soon. I would need reassurance that our problems could be worked out and resolved. Also, I would need proof from him that he is 100% committed to me before I even go that route. And, to get the committment from him, it would be back to square one--us dating again and taking it slow. Once I trusted him, then I would consider having sex with him. Link to post Share on other sites
dahlia Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 When I read this title, I actually thought, how lucky this person is, I would give anything to be in their shoes....and then I realized it was hypothetical, but it was a very good question. I mourn for my ex. It's been three mths with no contact. I have many men chasing me who are successful and cute, but, my ex was and will always be the love of my life. I have figured that out over the past 3 mths. He meant everything to me, but obviously I meant nothing to him If he showed up on my door, I would be grateful for whatever last moments I could have with him. I loved him more than life itself. I would definitely have sex with him, b/c I will never have sex like we did with anyone else. Funny thing is, I cry as I write this. I really loved him, and when I read what would you do if your ex just showed up at your door....do you know I was jealous of you???? Oh well.... Link to post Share on other sites
grace2005 Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Funny you should start a thread like this because my ex showed up at my door yesterday. I didn't answer and pretended I was not home. Later I go out and get a little note from her saying "hope all is well & happy new year". I'm still angry & resentful towards her. I don't know how much longer I will stick to NC to be real honest. I've learned my lesson to never forgive a woman who dumps me. Trust me once they dump you its over because you will resent them later on even if they decide to come back. I don't care how sorry she might be at this point. I'm still turning her down. Link to post Share on other sites
pippen_2k Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Id probably say nothing, have sex with her, then ask her to leave.... Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 And give what I have now? God never, nope, not in a million years! Link to post Share on other sites
chocolate_boy Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 I REALLY had to think about this and picture and in all honesty, if it was the recent one, I'd have slammed the door in her face the minute I noticed it was her, no thanks! And after maybe have a smug moment and a giggle to myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 I'd say no thank you and shut the door. I've gone through enough back and forth with my ex to know that nothing in our situation will ever change. He will never grow up or treat women with respect and I've given him plenty of chances to find out. All I hold for him now is pity, and a little disgust. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Maybe if Lonestar showed up at my door, I'd greet her with a nice glass of Merlot, a CD of John Coltrane, a few candles, some massage oil, and maybe a feather... Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Maybe if Lonestar showed up at my door, I'd greet her with a nice glass of Merlot, a CD of John Coltrane, a few candles, some massage oil, and maybe a feather... enticing, slubber.... I like the feather.. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 That's just part of it. The rest of the chicken is upstairs... Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 That's just part of it. The rest of the chicken is upstairs... Damn Slubber is going to show you his pecker? a4a- rubba chicken....kiiiiiinnnnnky boy Link to post Share on other sites
Author AltplanB Posted January 19, 2006 Author Share Posted January 19, 2006 Just to let you guys know, this did not happen to me and the only reason i started this thread was too see what people's reactions would be if it did happen. Like most of you, i still pray for her to come around and want me back so badly, changing the tide of the whole thing. So many mixed signals i just wish she would break down and do it. But then i get to thinking why i want so badly for it to happen. I think, could it really get back to the way it was? Could i ever forget about the man she was with inbetween us? Could i ever trust her again? You find yourself contemplating the reasoning for your desire and then you end up not being sure, which i dont know is better or worse. I want her back because i thought she was the one, although i didn't quite understand it. Now i know she may of been the one, but she didn't treat me like the one in the end, when she up and changed her mind on me like that. I tell you, if you want them back so bad and you feel that they are the ones that are truly for you, do you really think this is the truth if it is so hard for them to see it? Link to post Share on other sites
honeybunch2k5 Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 If my ex only wanted sex, then no. I would tell him to screw himself b/c I'm not doing it. But if he came to my door not under the influence of drugs or alcohol, then I would be delighted. I would love for him to see that he really felt for me,was sorry and also wanted to get back together. I would make love to him, and take him back.But I would make sure he knew he's gonna have to regain my trust first. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 I can give an answer right now and still not be sure. I guess it would depend on how much time had elapsed and whether or not I had truly moved past all the intense romantic emotions towards him. I only hope I could say not only ' no, -but HELL no!' to him. The truth is, I am still fighting very deep feelings for him and realize they could make me respond with actions not in interest of my overall well-being. Still, having those emotions make me vulnerable to the deceiving influences that of the whole relationship, and according to how powerful they might be at the moment of any encounter, I know I run the risk of being sucked in. That's why I have chosen Absolute No Contact. I need to give myself time to build strength to withstand any possible seduction from those remaining emotions. I identify with the thoughts and feelings of many in this forum regarding the desperate wish that he/she would suddenly appear in front of us as a changed and loving person, willing to forgive, forget, patch up, and move ahead as a couple, -but we are only wishing for the impossible. We do not control the heart or mind of another. And we cannot dream hopeless dreams forever. Cinderella was, indeed, a fairytale. Unfortunately. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 We do not control the heart or mind of another. Good advice.. If only we could believe this when we are going thru a breakup Link to post Share on other sites
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