tgrace Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Long story short.....dated a man for 4 months, lived together for 6 months, he moved away to go to school, tried a long distance relationship and it didn't work out and he dumped me. He wanted to remain friends and still contacted me all the time. He dated someone else and it didn't work out. Meanwhile, we transitioned into 'friends with benefits.' I was starting to get emotional again about 3 months ago and told him I had to put the friendship on hold so I could regroup. That's when he told me he has realized he still has feelings for me that he thought weren't there when he broke up with me. However, he doesn't know what these feelings are. He's trying to figure out if he's in love with me or whether he's just settling. He told me that he knows if we were in a committed relationship we would be together forever because we're that comfortable with each other and have very few issues. But, because the way he feels about me isn't any way he's felt about another female, he's confused. He's thought he was in love before with others and it turned out wrong. Meanwhile, he has started dialogue with a girl he dated 8 years ago and now he's basically keeping me hanging while he's trying to figure out whether he's just in lust with her or trying to rekindle old feelings. Of course, he doesn't know I know this and I'm sure she doesn't know that he's supposedly dating me currently. I guess my question is....how many people out there have thought they settled in relationships and found out later they really hadn't settled, it was actually the best thing they could have done? And, what made you realize that? Link to post Share on other sites
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