whichwayisup Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 I in turn went to her bf home and slapped the **** out of her, I only slapped her once There's a big difference between one smack across the face and slapping the **** out of her. The way you made it sound before was like you kicked the crap outta her or something! Still wasn't cool to do, but people do stupid things without thinking and react on raw emotion. Link to post Share on other sites
AJS Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 How did you get I kicked the crap out of her from "I slapped the **** out of her" anyway? I slapped her ONCE really hard. It's not that hard to figure out.... raw emotion is an understatement for how I was feeling that day. It might not have been a "cool thing to do" but trying to stick a big ole knife in my back after all I had done for her wasn't a cool thing to do either. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Sorry, I put my own spin on how that read to me. Either way hitting her was wrong, but still I'm sure you felt some relief afterwards. (I put the same comment on another thread about wife hitting the OW and getting arrested for it) Link to post Share on other sites
AJS Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 She knew better than to have me arrested, but if she had... it would have been worth it. I got the pleasure of watching her bf kick her out instead. What a delight that was! Link to post Share on other sites
elmejor Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 One day I got a phone call from a friend of hers telling me that this girl was after my H. She told me that the girl said she was getting my H, home, and my kids, that I was going to be out in a matter of months because she was younger and prettier than me so he would go for her no doubt. Well, he was working on his car a few days later when she tried to execute her plans....he fired her on the spot and came inside and told me. I in turn went to her bf home and slapped the **** out of her, then told him what she was up to....... She "knew better" than to have you arrested? Do you understand that what you did was worse than what the young woman did? You could actually lose you home if someone you assault decides to prosecute you and sue for damages! Now to me, that would be funny! And you actually went to her residence to carry out your attack too. Tsk. Tsk......very bad Oh, by the way do you just "slap someone very hard" whenever you have this "raw emotion" thing going on? To get better parking spots? WHOMP---to be seated first at a restaurant? Kerpow! Just assault somebody! I'm sure no one will ever call the police on you, right? Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 She knew better than to have me arrested, but if she had... it would have been worth it. I got the pleasure of watching her bf kick her out instead. What a delight that was! I actually think it's sad when somebody gets pleasure from someone else's pain.. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 WHOA - I wasn't talking about MOST women, I was talking about ONE woman. This particular woman I watched and heard set out to "get" this particular married man. I don't know if it was because he was married, or that she just didn't care that he was married. I felt at the time, and feel now, that he didn't realize what she was up to. I felt also, and still feel, that if he was aware of her manipulative nature that he would not feel friendly toward her. Therefore could have (if the rumor was true) avoided breaking up his marriage. No, perhaps it wasn't my business. That was my excuse at the time for saying and doing nothing. I don't feel OK about my choice. I can see, however, that I also made a poor choice of where to post this particular concern of mine. I didn't realize when I made this post that this was a support group for women and men who condone and take part in this activity. Nobody condones an A. Most people come here for advice on how to get out of the A. MOST.. but not all. Nobody says it's ok. Let me tell ya too.. MM are extremely manipulative. Nobody put a gun to HIS head. Also, again, it's none of your business. Stay out of it unless it effects you. Link to post Share on other sites
My_Other_I Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Nobody condones an A. Most people come here for advice on how to get out of the A. MOST.. but not all. Nobody says it's ok. Let me tell ya too.. MM are extremely manipulative. Nobody put a gun to HIS head. Also, again, it's none of your business. Stay out of it unless it effects you. Obviously it did effect her. Otherwise she wouldn't be posting here. This is a wonderful example of how affairs effect many lives, not just the two involved lovers. The issue here was that she was bothered by whether or not she could do anything to stop it from happening. I agree there was not much to do except for talking to the co-worker, but who knows if that would do any good, anyway. Talking to the MM might just make her look like some psycho coming out of nowhere, bashing out the co-worker. It's tough situation. I don't think that would have been a good idea. Affairs are extremelly selfish, but unfortunatelly many people don't see the possible damage until the A is discovered and they can see the impact in real time. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Obviously it did effect her. Otherwise she wouldn't be posting here. This is a wonderful example of how affairs effect many lives, not just the two involved lovers. The issue here was that she was bothered by whether or not she could do anything to stop it from happening. I agree there was not much to do except for talking to the co-worker, but who knows if that would do any good, anyway. Talking to the MM might just make her look like some psycho coming out of nowhere, bashing out the co-worker. It's tough situation. I don't think that would have been a good idea. Affairs are extremelly selfish, but unfortunatelly many people don't see the possible damage until the A is discovered and they can see the impact in real time. I had an A with my M coworker. I was a waitress and he was the cook. Now I'm sure nobody liked it. I even had a trouble making coworker try and call the W. I had alot of friends I worked with too. They didn't approve, but knew better than to say anything.. because I wasn't going to listen. I was very naive at the time, very foolish. They told me they'd be there for me when I got hurt like they knew I was going to be, but they never tried to stop me. And besides the one trouble maker, never tried to tell the W.. even when she came in to eat. They knew it was none of their business. When she tries to brag about it to you, just walk away & tell her you don't want to hear about it. But don't tell the W or anything of that nature. Also, trying to tell her not to do it is pointless. You have to learn the lesson for yourself. And she will. Link to post Share on other sites
My_Other_I Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 This is one lesson I wish I've never learned:love: Link to post Share on other sites
AJS Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 "I actually think it's sad when somebody gets pleasure from someone else's pain.." Well, I'm sure she would have been more than happy to ruin my M if given a chance so ...YES, her pain made me happy! and elmejor...what are you rambling about? I don't go around slapping people when I get angry either, I slap only the skanky little hags who try to steal my H! Lose my home? LOL.... yeah right, not where I live sweetie. damn, that post made me laugh so hard I had tears rolling down my cheeks! I see you don't get it yet, this girl was like family to me, she took care of our children! I had every right to act the way I did towards her. She wanted my H and was willing to hurt me, my children, and her bf to get what she wanted. In the end she got NOTHING, which is what she deserved. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I've seen women pursue married men because they were a challenge. They wanted to see how committed he was and if they could get him away from his wife. Sometimes they really don't want the married man. They just want to see if they can get a "committed" man. It's an ego thing. Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I've seen women pursue married men because they were a challenge. They wanted to see how committed he was and if they could get him away from his wife. Sometimes they really don't want the married man. They just want to see if they can get a "committed" man. It's an ego thing. Apparently there have been psychological studies done about this. I don't recall what it's called, but basically if one person has something, it becomes much more attractive to other people. The studies show that some woman and men are far more attracted to married men and women simply BECAUSE they are married. They aren't necessarily aware of what is creating the attraction, but that doesn't negate it. Link to post Share on other sites
Astarte Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 "I actually think it's sad when somebody gets pleasure from someone else's pain.." Well, I'm sure she would have been more than happy to ruin my M if given a chance so ...YES, her pain made me happy! and elmejor...what are you rambling about? I don't go around slapping people when I get angry either, I slap only the skanky little hags who try to steal my H! Lose my home? LOL.... yeah right, not where I live sweetie. damn, that post made me laugh so hard I had tears rolling down my cheeks! I see you don't get it yet, this girl was like family to me, she took care of our children! I had every right to act the way I did towards her. She wanted my H and was willing to hurt me, my children, and her bf to get what she wanted. In the end she got NOTHING, which is what she deserved. You're bloody funny.... Link to post Share on other sites
elmejor Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 "I actually think it's sad when somebody gets pleasure from someone else's pain.." Well, I'm sure she would have been more than happy to ruin my M if given a chance so ...YES, her pain made me happy! and elmejor...what are you rambling about? I don't go around slapping people when I get angry either, I slap only the skanky little hags who try to steal my H! Lose my home? LOL.... yeah right, not where I live sweetie. damn, that post made me laugh so hard I had tears rolling down my cheeks! I see you don't get it yet, this girl was like family to me, she took care of our children! I had every right to act the way I did towards her. She wanted my H and was willing to hurt me, my children, and her bf to get what she wanted. In the end she got NOTHING, which is what she deserved. Have you tried therapy and/or medication to help you cope with life better? I feel very sorry for people like you.... Link to post Share on other sites
AJS Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Have you tried therapy and/or medication to help you cope with life better? I feel very sorry for people like you.... You are so cute elmo, can I call you elmo? (your posts have given me great laughs) Look, I'm happy, got a great family, H whom loves me and life is great! You think I need meds because I slapped a silly little HO and liked it? I think it just makes you mad that a woman can defend her family and WIN. Oh and elmo.....Don't feel sorry for me, I am completely satisfied with my life. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 You are so cute elmo, can I call you elmo? (your posts have given me great laughs) Look, I'm happy, got a great family, H whom loves me and life is great! You think I need meds because I slapped a silly little HO and liked it? I think it just makes you mad that a woman can defend her family and WIN. Oh and elmo.....Don't feel sorry for me, I am completely satisfied with my life. You don't sound like a very happy person. I don't necessarily think you needs meds.. but I do think it's sad that you slapped a 'silly little HO and liked it'. I think people who takes pleasure from other people's pain, just so they can feel better, are pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
helena abadi Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 women chase MM because they know there's little chance of real intimacy. you don't get the real deal with a MM. Link to post Share on other sites
AJS Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 You don't sound like a very happy person. I don't necessarily think you needs meds.. but I do think it's sad that you slapped a 'silly little HO and liked it'. I think people who takes pleasure from other people's pain, just so they can feel better, are pathetic. I think women who are so desperate for a man that they try to take a married one is pathetic! Sorry... but you can "try" to insult me all day long and can't. I feel NOTHING for women whom try so hard to take a man they can't have. A woman who really believed she could invade my family life was out to hurt me for her own pleasure, but you see nothing wrong with that.... So I take it you think it's ok to try and sleep with your friends H? Maybe you are a little bitter because a MM used you? What does that make you? A joke! Link to post Share on other sites
AJS Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 You know what's so funny about this? I'm telling a story here that is years old! I didn't have the perfect M, my H could have been a MM if he wanted to, she was right there in his face and HE didn't do it. She was a FRIEND and keeper of my children. She had some nerve trying to steal my H right under my nose. That's why I slapped her and I would do it again. She was out to ruin my life and the lives of my children because she wanted my H and some of you think I have problems? What kind of person does that to a family that had been nothing but good to her? A skanky little HO. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dragonfish Posted January 24, 2006 Author Share Posted January 24, 2006 I had an A with my M coworker. I was a waitress and he was the cook. Now I'm sure nobody liked it. I was very naive at the time, very foolish. They told me they'd be there for me when I got hurt like they knew I was going to be, but they never tried to stop me. Also, trying to tell her not to do it is pointless. You have to learn the lesson for yourself. And she will. It sounds like you are young and have learned your lesson. She was in her 40's. I think it was a way of life. Link to post Share on other sites
StrivingtoSucceed Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Question for anyone reading this ... long story short and this pertains to an emotional affair ... OW pursues MM knowing he was MM, but thinks he is unhappy with M (b/c OW doesn't know anything about him and the fact that he is going through depression and had recently been diagnosed with a long-term disease b/c he never shared ANY personal information except ). She continues to pursue him, he thinks that he would be happier with her instead of in marriage, but then realizes that he wouldn't, so he doesn't leave and does all that he can to stay with W. However, there is still contact that must be maintained due to working conditions, in which case H is polite with OW. Sometimes OW tries to get personal and H changes subject or ends conversations. So, along the lines of this thread of why OW pursue MM is where my question comes along ... why do OW continue to pursue MM even when they didn't "win the prize" ... when is it that they actually stop trying? NOTE: this isn't to bash anyone ... I don't think the majority of OW are out to hurt anyone, they're in a relationship just like anyone else, but there are the few who just don't care who they hurt to get what they want, are very manipulative about it and I would really like to know when those type of people finally stop and move on? Link to post Share on other sites
Banana Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 There more then likley wasn't anything that you could do about it. You said she must have got him, well I don't think that he could have been gotten if he didn't want to be. You said that you didn't know him well and maybe things weren't as they seemed. I'm sure there are women who deliberatly go after a guy that is married, but you don't know what he was saying to her to keep her persuing him. Link to post Share on other sites
Banana Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Question for anyone reading this ... long story short and this pertains to an emotional affair ... OW pursues MM knowing he was MM, but thinks he is unhappy with M (b/c OW doesn't know anything about him and the fact that he is going through depression and had recently been diagnosed with a long-term disease b/c he never shared ANY personal information except ). She continues to pursue him, he thinks that he would be happier with her instead of in marriage, but then realizes that he wouldn't, so he doesn't leave and does all that he can to stay with W. However, there is still contact that must be maintained due to working conditions, in which case H is polite with OW. Sometimes OW tries to get personal and H changes subject or ends conversations. So, along the lines of this thread of why OW pursue MM is where my question comes along ... why do OW continue to pursue MM even when they didn't "win the prize" ... when is it that they actually stop trying? NOTE: this isn't to bash anyone ... I don't think the majority of OW are out to hurt anyone, they're in a relationship just like anyone else, but there are the few who just don't care who they hurt to get what they want, are very manipulative about it and I would really like to know when those type of people finally stop and move on? Has he tried telling her how he feels? I couldn't tell from what you said if he actully told her he had made the decision and wouldn't be changing his mind (again). I think that it's a good thing that he's not being rude or mean to her, but if he hasn't told her point blank, then she may not really know. If he has maybe she just needs to be reminded about it. Or because he has flopped so to speak, she may think that there is still a chance, that he will change his mind. I don't understand why she would get involved with someone she didn't know anything about. I just can't imagine being involved with someone that I did'nt have personal info on. But that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Banana Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 How about a wife that finally decides to actually act like a wife only after the treat of another woman. What she had wasn't near as important to her until she was ready to loose it. She didn't even care until he met someone else. It almost sounds like the same thing. Suddenly she quit complaining and decided what she had wasn't so bad after all. Link to post Share on other sites
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