luvtoto Posted January 20, 2006 Share Posted January 20, 2006 The "He made me love him!!!" guy broke NC last night. UGH. I am so ticked off. He talked to my daughter on MSN after about 6 weeks of NC. He asked her if I was still mad at him. I put him on the spot last I talked to him. I got tired of playing his "hot/cold" game. So, I called him on it. He didn't like that very much. Haven't heard from him...till just last night. He also went on and on about how good of a mother I am. He also said that I was just a sweetheart and bunch of other stuff...that just pissed my daughter off. She felt in the middle of things. I've told him before to NOT do that. I set up that boundary before with him!! I think he's looking for a reaction from me. I am not going to give it to him. NO bitchy email or anything. He's a nice guy...don't get me wrong. I just can't be friends with him cause I have feelings for him!!! Why can't he respect that and why the hell does he want to be my friend so damn bad????? I don't get it. Confused once again. Am I being a big jerk here? I've tried to be friends in the past,...after the feelings developed, but, I just kept getting hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 20, 2006 Share Posted January 20, 2006 You're doing the right thing. But you already knew that anyway, right? who's the cutie with the red bow in her hair? izzat you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted January 20, 2006 Author Share Posted January 20, 2006 Thanks Slubber! I have had more comments on my avatar. It's not me, though. But, it reminds me of a picture I had of myself when I was young. I am not sure if I am doing the right thing. He's a really nice guy...always concerned about me and my kids, and how my life has been going. He's trustworthy. I kind of think I am acting immature here and ruining a good friendship with this guy. I am ruining a good friendship, just cause I am spoiled and can't accept the fact that he doesn't want to date me. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted January 20, 2006 Share Posted January 20, 2006 If he was concerned about your kids, then he wouldn't have put your daughter in the middle of it. Not cool. Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted January 20, 2006 Author Share Posted January 20, 2006 If he was concerned about your kids, then he wouldn't have put your daughter in the middle of it. Not cool. I can see your point, Jen. Especially after I asked him not to do that the first time. He's always been close with my kids though...and no he isn't a pedafile. He's got tons a friends, lots of healthy, longterm relationships. Everybody wants to be friends with him. I am the opposite. I have very few friends and unable to develop long-term friendships. Well, I take that back, I have a few...but, gotta work at it. Let's just say if the phone is for me at home...I'm shocked. I miss hearing his "what I did this weekend" stories. I think I was living vicariously through him. That's one of the reasons I was so attracted to him. Sorry...just babblin' now. So, are you sure I am not the one with the problem here? Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted January 20, 2006 Share Posted January 20, 2006 You're not wrong. Why would you be wrong for being a little selfish to get over him and move on? Sounds like he's being selfish by not wanting to let you go do your thing. Does he want you or not? He doesn't know. You need to move on and forget him and not worry about what he needs right now. Later on if you want to you can reassess but I wouldn't do it until you absolutely have no desire to be with him again. If you can't get rid of that, then don't try being friends. It's just not good for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author luvtoto Posted January 21, 2006 Author Share Posted January 21, 2006 Thanks! I needed the pep talk. Backtracked a bit today. I just don't have many friends and it sucks to lose one...no matter what reason. Link to post Share on other sites
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