Am I being played, or does she like me?

[superconfused]

Hi people. I don't want to go in to too much detail, so I'll just tell you the basics and hopefully you can help me...

There is this girl who I have known since I was 8 years old (I'm 16 now), and in the past couple years we have gotten to know eachother pretty well and we have become good friends. She has asked me to walk her to class plenty of times and she invites me over often, along with some of her other friends to watch movies and stuff. She talks to me a lot, and I have noticed some of the possible signs that she might like me:

 

*She gives me playful hits or pokes when we are passing eachother

*I often make eye contact with her from accross the room at church and we both smile

*She really seems to enjoy talking to me

*When she talks to me, she stands close to me

*She laughs at jokes I say, even if they aren't that funny

*(This is a big one) She asked me to go on a date with her on my birthday (we don't go out w/ each other, just to clarify)

*And lots of other small things that she does make me think that she likes me.

 

I've had the biggest crush on her for years, but I have never actually told her that I really like her because that sort of thing could easily ruin everything if she didn't feel the same way about me (and I don't want to end a friendship that has lasted so long).

 

Despite all that I have mentioned above, I am so confused whether she likes me or not, because I have watched her recently and she has been flirting with a lot of other guys- playing with their hair, hugging them a lot, and so on. I feel sad and confused right now because I adore her so, so much. I thought I was special to her, but if she really cared about me would she be flirting with so many other guys? Is there something I am missing? I hope that anyone can help me- I need it bad! Thanks in advance

 

-superconfused

[cygny]

it sounds like she likes you--and she could be just having flirty fun with other guys--so why don't you ask her out? you don't have to tell her you like her, save that for later, when you know how she feels about you more.

[lmr]

hi super confused.

 

It would seem that our posts are sort of similar (minus the significant other in your case). But the same confused situation. Both of us in love and entirely unsure how to act on those feelings..and not entirely sure if the other person feels the same way, even when some, or maybe all, of the signs point to yes.

 

My first instinct is to say just put yourself out there. Go out swinging, no regrets. I'm contemplating it, but don't know what that means to me since she is technically involved, and it might be easier to lose what I have in my situation. Don't really know.

 

But it would seem that it would be worth it if that risk paid off. And as difficult as it is to admit to myself, you'd probably move on if you told her and she wound up distancing herself from you. But it is hard to stand behind that, because I am in a similar situation, I can relate...and in the end, no one can really tell you what to do or what is worth it... because that is, very much, something that is organic to the people affected. Even if our situations are similar.

 

I suppose if this was your last hour on earth... who would you call? How would you feel if you never made a move? Do you think you'd be be friends in 10 years if you stayed friends, even if you went to different colleges? Don't really know what is important to you, or how I could tell you one thing over the next. All I know is I can relate to your post, and I wish you luck.

 

I'm in my mid-upper twenties. Which isn't too old/wise. But I've had my shares of ups and downs. And I'll tell you that I wouldn't trade my downs away. Things have a way of working themselves out somehow. I suppose this is just part of that journey, yea?

 

very best. & luck with whatever you decide to do.