Naive Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 My wedding is not until November but I am already starting to plan and get some things done. I am unsure of what color to take. I wanted red but it will clash with the banquet hall. I also wanted brown but my family said it's too dark for a wedding. Another thing, I want each bridesmaid to wear a different dress but in the exact same color and the same fabric. At the same time I think it's too informal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 im having a luau wedding in june and all my bridesmaids will wear a different style dress in the same fabric because they all look better in different styles and they are paying for them so what the hay. brown and red or burgandy or navy or green or blue are all nice fall to winter wedding colors. pick what you like and what suits your girls budgets and dont worry about what other people say. my cousin got married last year and his new wife used kelly green and bright purple , so if they can do that you can surely use brown if you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted January 22, 2006 Author Share Posted January 22, 2006 Thanks... It's just so hard! Link to post Share on other sites
clandestinidad Posted January 22, 2006 Share Posted January 22, 2006 If you like brown, but think it might be too dark, try different shades. Like a milk chocolate rather than dark chocolate, for example. I think its pretty when the girls choose their own style but its all the same color and fabric....and its fair to you and the girls too, since that way they wont be mad at your for picking something they arent comfortable in....pleasing everyone is a HUGE drag, so try to avoid it if possible. Letting them choose their personal style of dress is a good way to take yourself out of it a little. just what i think I hope you have a lot of fun planning!!! Keep letting us know how its going!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
BeFree Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I agree with everyone else. I think it looks better when everyone is wearing a different style. It will also take the pressure off you to find just the right style for everyone and the bridesmaid will love you for it. They will be happier and in turn you will be happier. I also think brown would be fine, if it's the right shade. Have fun, don't stress out over the small stuff, it will make for a much more enjoyable planning experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Naive Posted January 23, 2006 Author Share Posted January 23, 2006 I agree with everyone else. I think it looks better when everyone is wearing a different style. That is what I think. Since I can remember, I would always say that I wanted my bridesmaid to wear different dresses but my sister says it does not look formal and it looks like it was done last minute. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 the only thing that matters is that the bridemaids look like shyt and you look good....the worse they look, the better you look Link to post Share on other sites
clandestinidad Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 UGH....sister says, mother says....BLAH Are they getting married?? No, they are living through you in a way...getting to help plan another wedding makes them feel like its theirs you know everyone has their opinions about their weddings..but this one isnt theirs, so they should stop disagreeing w/ you!!! You could always go to Hawaii, get married, and then boat over to Fiji and Tahiti.....oh wait...I'm not the one getting married...oops Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 My wedding is not until November but I am already starting to plan and get some things done. I am unsure of what color to take. I wanted red but it will clash with the banquet hall. I also wanted brown but my family said it's too dark for a wedding. Another thing, I want each bridesmaid to wear a different dress but in the exact same color and the same fabric. At the same time I think it's too informal. Here are my experiences in this bridesmaid thing... One wedding - Each of us decided what to wear as long as it was black. Another wedding - Violet dresses were made for us so we all matched. What about beige? Or toupe? That is still brown but lighter... Start googling and looking a bridesmaid dresses. Buy magazines too (though I'm sure you have already.) Also, talk to the girls and see what they say, maybe some have ideas that could help!! Guess the count down begins eh! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Another thing, I want each bridesmaid to wear a different dress but in the exact same color and the same fabric. At the same time I think it's too informal. not really, it all depends on the styles you pick out. When both my best friends got married, the women in each of the wedding parties kept to a basic color scheme, but got to choose the dress style. Me and the maid of honor wore a hunter green dress with black heels in one wedding (dresses from Dillards, very dressy but not prom-dress dressy, took place in February); other wedding (in January), the bride's attendents wore black with black heels. And it all came out very nice because all the women's dresses complemented each other ~ what gave it uniform was that at both weddings, the groomsmen & grooms were in matching tuxes. So you can make it work, just be sure the color you pick goes with your dress and that the attendents dresses are in the same color family (same or complementary). brown can be a beautiful color, just be sure you pick a tone that goes with your wedding dress and is a good color on your friends ~ there are warmer shades like cocoa or coffee that look dressy, not drab. You can always add a splash of color with the bouquets they carry or the jewelry or accessories they wear. whatever you decide, remember, it's your wedding. While you want the bridesmaids to be content with their dresses, you still have final say on the color scheme! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Kat! Good seeing you back here, and welcome to the Lone Star State. In what region are you living ~ north, south, east, west or central? I'm in the Piney Woods (East Texas), but I've seen some Houston and Dallas addresses on this forum as well. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 My wedding is not until November but I am already starting to plan and get some things done. I am unsure of what color to take. I wanted red but it will clash with the banquet hall. I also wanted brown but my family said it's too dark for a wedding. Another thing, I want each bridesmaid to wear a different dress but in the exact same color and the same fabric. At the same time I think it's too informal. Oh, bunk. They did it for Charlotte's second wedding on sex and the city. Just pick a color and make sure that you can approve the dresses before the date. And ask your bridesmaids to get their dresses fitted. Clothes look better when properly fitted. Link to post Share on other sites
clandestinidad Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Kat! Good seeing you back here, and welcome to the Lone Star State. In what region are you living ~ north, south, east, west or central? I'm in the Piney Woods (East Texas), but I've seen some Houston and Dallas addresses on this forum as well. LOL, quank!! Ive been here for 8 yrs or so...hahaha. Ive wanted to move back to FL since then! I live somewhere around Houston, actually! Its not too bad till the summers...and my horrible allergies year round! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 *smacks forehead* I thought you'd just moved here! Boy do I feel like a nincompoop. :laugh: Oh well, I've never been accused of being on the ball much of the time! Houston? You know what they say, it's not the heat, it's the humidity .... :D anyhow, it's good seeing you back on the boards. Link to post Share on other sites
vampira Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 My wedding is not until November but I am already starting to plan and get some things done. I am unsure of what color to take. I wanted red but it will clash with the banquet hall. I also wanted brown but my family said it's too dark for a wedding. Another thing, I want each bridesmaid to wear a different dress but in the exact same color and the same fabric. At the same time I think it's too informal. Actually I think it can look terrible when bridesmaids all wear the same dress, especially because not every style will suit every person. And I'm sure no-one wants their bridesmaids looking or feeling uneasy. In regards to colour, I think brown sounds nice. I'm bias though, it's my fav colour to wear! Although the thing is, just like style, colours dont suit everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Alpha makes a great point for a start...!! The thing to remember is that this is YOUR wedding. No doubt you only intend to this once? So to hell with what anyone else says.... do it YOUR way, make YOURself and YOUR partner happy with what you do. That is all that counts. I'm going to do what I damn well like for my wedding... because it will be MY wedding that I'M paying for!! Link to post Share on other sites
dnm1010 Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 ive seen some nice brown and pink or brown and turqoise for bridesmaids... Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted January 25, 2006 Share Posted January 25, 2006 consider this also, when all is said and done , most people will only remember a few things about your wedding. here are the things i remember about weddings: 1. how pretty the bride is 2. how nervous the groom seems 3. if the music sucked or was a hit 4. what the cake tasted like 5. if anything very funny or very embarassing happened to anyone with these things in my mind, i have to remind myself that i am paying for my own wedding and no one else is helping, except for the bridal party is paying for their own attire, thats why i picked something very cheap that they can use again. and i also say, its not really about what the bridesmaid wear, or how big the cake is, its about confessing our love and completing our family and having fun. Link to post Share on other sites
ladyinwaiting Posted January 25, 2006 Share Posted January 25, 2006 I think matching bridesmaids can work, if you have all women of a similar colouring and shape. I've been part of a wedding where the two of us bridesmaids (and, indeed, the bride!) were average weight brunettes with pale skins with yellowy undertones. We looked sensational in nearly matching dresses that were a toned down version of the brides. However, I've also been bridesmaid at a wedding were the bride wanted three of us with extremely different body shapes to all wear the same thing. We ended up compromising on an empire line dress that none of us liked much (it was the P&P era and empire line was supposed to be flattering on everyone ... but that's just so not true!). I know most of the guests didn't care at the wedding, cause the focus is always on the bride, but the photographs afterwards are almost commical because of how silly we all look. I'd recommend letting each of the girls choose a style that suits them, but also keeping some editorial control so that the styles look good together. If you want uniformity, A-line works on most people, and different amounts of flare and varied necklines allow for personal tastes. I also think brown can look sensational. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted January 25, 2006 Share Posted January 25, 2006 Naive: Check out the knot dot com message boards. If you look at the Chicago board, or any board I am sure, you can see people's pictures of their real weddings. Click on their screen names to see their bios. I am sure I have seen one with brown dresses in all different styles and it looked great! It was not at all informal. Personally, I am planning on having my bridesmaids wear black, tea length dresses of whatever style they like. Have you thought about having chocolate brown with pink accents. That is very much in style and looks great. Good Luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Befree Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 I remember what the center pieces look like especially if they are really ugly. haha Link to post Share on other sites
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