Here is why YOU ask for a #

[My_Other_I]

I mentioned on another thread that I got hit on my married and taken men last night. (which, by the way, brought up my very bitchy/mean side)

The two MM had a wedding ring, so it wasn't so hard to figure out their status.

 

One guy was checking me out and flirting, so I finally went to talk to him. We were having a nice conversation until he asked for my number. I asked him to give me his instead, and that's when he started telling me some bs stories about how his phone got run over by a truck, he doesn't have a home phone, can't take calls at work, blah blah blah. He tries to kiss me and grab my hand, to touch my legs, rubbing my shoulders, etc.

I just kept looking at him, already knowing that something was fishy there. I asked him if he had a gf. Yup, a live-in gf.

He starts to say how sorry he is and that he wished he was single. He even promised to be single the next day. WTF?! When he was saying that, he continued to touch me and stuff.

I packed my stuff, told him what I thought of him and left.

Do you think that if I didn't ask him for his number, he would ever tell me about his gf and her kid?

 

I guess when you are single, it is safer to ask for the OP's # instead of giving out yours. A single person will give you his/her #, an involved person will make up some messed up excuses.

[can't_get_happy]

i'm willing to bet you met him in a bar. (and if you didn't my mistake.)

 

but, don't go to bars to meet men. alcohol doesn't exactly equal honesty.

[My_Other_I]

i'm willing to bet you met him in a bar. (and if you didn't my mistake.)

 

but, don't go to bars to meet men. alcohol doesn't exactly equal honesty.

Of course it was in a bar. And I don't go to bars to look for men. No way. But I do talk to people. Nothing wrong with talking, but he was a bit too forward, forgetting to mention he was not single.

[roxyg]

If you saw a ring on his finger, that's a BIG clue that hey this guy has a significant other, why bother asking or even talking to the guy. You can't put ALL the blame on them, most people would take it as a red flag not to talk to a married man! Also, why let him touch you, if you knew he was already in a relationship. I guess I don't understand your rant, as in my eyes I see it to be just as much as your responsibility as his.

[Gabber]

I think you might wanna re-read her story. I think what she said was there were other men who were married hitting on her. I don't think she was referring to the guy to whom she was talking to. Besides he probably wouldn't have had a ring on when he has a "live-in" gf.