lilmoma1973 Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I was listening to the radio while coming back from taking daughter to school ,and one of the guy's on there was talking about his gf wanting to get a new pair of sweat pants were she was going to the gym ,and they was $10.50 and he said we really can't afford it.. He asked her if he got her the sweat pants would she make a promise to him, and she said yes you have to give me sex when we get home!! My question is would you trade sex for something that your partner wants ? Has this ever happened before ? How do you feel about this type of bargin to get what you want? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I have to bargain all the time..... not with my H but in my work relations..... I guess it is considered political strategy of sorts. But to trade sex for goods from my H....... no, but I would reward him with a surprise BJ perhaps if he did something super sweet I don't think using sex as a weapon or bargaining tools is a good idea in a relationship. Unless of course it involves over ten thousand dollars in goods or cash a4a- spank my pony 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 23, 2006 Author Share Posted January 23, 2006 I have to bargain all the time..... not with my H but in my work relations..... I guess it is considered political strategy of sorts. But to trade sex for goods from my H....... no, but I would reward him with a surprise BJ perhaps if he did something super sweet I don't think using sex as a weapon or bargaining tools is a good idea in a relationship. Unless of course it involves over ten thousand dollars in goods or cash a4a- spank my pony That was my thought exactly using sex as a tool to get what you want is just plain wrong a4a.. Now for money that big might be a idea naw just joking wouldn't do it for money either!! Link to post Share on other sites
SammyK Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Sex bargaining is not something I would care to do in my relationship. Sure, relationships are about compromise, but for someone to say, "If I get you this or that, can we have sex?" Is just plain crazy. People should have sex or be intimate because they want to, not used as a bargaining chip. Same goes for people who withhold sex from a spouse or partner. If you feel the need to withhold sex as a tool/weapon to get your point across, might be a good idea to call it quits, bascially the relationship is already over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 23, 2006 Author Share Posted January 23, 2006 Total agree with you on what you said Sammy!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
933KJL Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Hypocites all! You all talk a good talk but can't walk the walk. You always withold sex for your own nefarious reasons--perhaps something tangible like a pair of sweatpants, other time for something intangible like "you don't appreciate me enough", or some other malarchy! Come on, sex is the largest bargaining chip all women have in any relationship and once you are married it becomes even larger! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Come on, sex is the largest bargaining chip all women have in any relationship and once you are married it becomes even larger! one of my ex girlfriends was married to a fairly wealthy dude and she admitted to me that on many occasions she would "give hime sex" so that he'd pay off her credit cards that she ran up during her shopping sprees. no joking! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Hypocites all! You all talk a good talk but can't walk the walk. You always withold sex for your own nefarious reasons--perhaps something tangible like a pair of sweatpants, other time for something intangible like "you don't appreciate me enough", or some other malarchy! Come on, sex is the largest bargaining chip all women have in any relationship and once you are married it becomes even larger! Totally agree with KJL on this one. Funny thing is most people aren't even aware they are doing it. But it happens all the time in most relationships. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 We joke about it all the time here. I tell him I'll do the dishes if you bang me later! Or I'll rub my boobs on you if you give me a back massage. Harmless fun. Though I draw the line when money is involved...lol... Nah, neither of us use sex as a bargaining chip. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Hypocites all! You all talk a good talk but can't walk the walk. You always withold sex for your own nefarious reasons--perhaps something tangible like a pair of sweatpants, other time for something intangible like "you don't appreciate me enough", or some other malarchy! Come on, sex is the largest bargaining chip all women have in any relationship and once you are married it becomes even larger! Not this chicky........ I want it too much to withhold it for any reason! I never ever use it as a bargaining chip..... if anything I could probably use money or goods to get my H to put out a4a Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Not this chicky........ I want it too much to withhold it for any reason! I never ever use it as a bargaining chip..... if anything I could probably use money or goods to get my H to put out a4a I thought women like you were an ubran myth. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 23, 2006 Author Share Posted January 23, 2006 one of my ex girlfriends was married to a fairly wealthy dude and she admitted to me that on many occasions she would "give hime sex" so that he'd pay off her credit cards that she ran up during her shopping sprees. no joking! DEG how degrading that is to do!! Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I thought women like you were an ubran myth. No Tudor I spoil him rotten so he will let me play with the twig and berries...... I really enjoy sex. More important is that my partner enjoy it with me..... I have been known to just pop up out of the blue and ask H .....would you like a BJ? I do it because he loves it...... makes him happy. a4a Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 No Tudor I spoil him rotten so he will let me play with the twig and berries...... I really enjoy sex. More important is that my partner enjoy it with me..... I have been known to just pop up out of the blue and ask H .....would you like a BJ? I do it because he loves it...... makes him happy. a4a Good wife! Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I don't like these type of games in relationships. The tit for tat is not good for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I don't like these type of games in relationships. The tit for tat is not good for a relationship. games in human relationships are a fact of life WOGGLE. Can you suggest a better alternative? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 games in human relationships are a fact of life WOGGLE. Can you suggest a better alternative? Not in my relationship. Good communication and understanding is how we do it. We play fun games but nothing serious. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 to all you guys *cough tudor & 933kjl Cough * there is a difference between withholding sex for a point and you being turned off by your partners behavior / attitude towards you. If my BF is being a total a$$ to me I don't want sex because he is mean and it turns me off. likewise if your partner stopped shaving & showering you might be turned off by her stinky, hairy self. but as always I'm horny all the time.[sIZE/] Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 If you are french you might be turned on by a woman not shaving. Just joking so none of the french posters on here take offense. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I've never meant a guy who was turned on by hairy legs. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I've never meant a guy who was turned on by hairy legs. Go to france. Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Well, I am not one to bargain but if Catherine Zeta Jones offered to buy me lunch to have sex with her I would take her up on it:D Link to post Share on other sites
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 23, 2006 Author Share Posted January 23, 2006 Well, I am not one to bargain but if Catherine Zeta Jones offered to buy me lunch to have sex with her I would take her up on it:D LOL!! Can't blame you there Neptune she is hott.. Not gay just think she is beautiful Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Not this chicky........ I want it too much to withhold it for any reason! I never ever use it as a bargaining chip..... if anything I could probably use money or goods to get my H to put out a4a ME too! But yeah, in my first marriage I was probably guilty of doing this. Link to post Share on other sites
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