CBT for codependency, i'm so alone & depressed!

[caring guy]

Hi

Even though my problems are meaningless, that don't amke them go away! I ain't got cancer, i'm pretty healthy, but so very depressed & anxious & dependent!.

 

I feel very alone & am sick of getting hurt by relationship. I've told my story about this girl i met & i got my hopes up, 4 days of getting on wonderfully & thinking it was the start of something special! Being together as if we'd nown each other years, it was beautiful.

Then all changed, we had space & she wanted to just be friends, i showed emotion! but because i get attached, fall easily, it crushed me.

I'd booked to go away to her counytry & i eneded up not going as i would get more attached, & it was just because i'd booked it, not because she wanted me to go! It would've been false!

I'm leaft reeling. She won't answer my texts & i need answers.

 

I feel mentaly ill. I'm drinking more than ever, i feel there's something missing in my head, my thought proceses & i'm going to have CBT. Why i get attached, & obsessive & f*ck up so often with my needyness.

It creates anxiety & depression, i dropped out of college, i never get any texts, all my friends aren't they just are people i see in the bar, i'm so alone & lonely & haven't the confidence or motivation to do anything.

I hate myself now, thats why i self harm with a razor & drink, i just don't care, but i am addicted to love, to be loved, just wanted.

I'm not a bad guy, i have love to burn, caring, sensitive & there, why can't she see this!

She's due to go south working soon, maybe thats the reason & don't want to get close!

I don't know!

I just see no way out of this black hole!

cg

[whichwayisup]

Definately go do some CBT it will help so much. If you've having obessive thoughts, thinking more negatively and cutting that's not good. And it seems it's affecting everything in your life. I know it's hard and scary, but doing something about it is so good! Also, slow down with the drinking. Booze and drugs will only enhance the awful feelings you have.

 

Make that call to see a therapist. Talk to your DR to help you find someone to talk to.

 

Try not to focus your whole being on someone else, you need to be happy on your own. You are a good person! I wouldn't say you're addicted to love - I think your desire to be loved, to be needed is normal, but if that is what you're relying on to go on, another reason to go talk to a professional.

 

Hang in there, I know this ride isn't very fun but things WILL get better. You're aware that you're not well and willing to deal with it. That is a good start.

 

Keep posting!

[caring guy]

I hope it deals with my obsessive, irrational thoughts, or are they, i just love someone, can't have them, it seems, & i wonder whyy things happened, what her thoughts are & it's fu*king me up!

I can't stop dwelling on it, i've packed in college & work was hell, as i was in a daydream all time, so i got sack!

This is ****!, i just wanna drink & sleep, but i can't sleep!

Each day is nightmare!

[whichwayisup]

The CBT will help those thoughts. Irrational ones and depressed ones too.

 

The fact it is in your thoughts all the time and affecting your life, you can't sleep and you want to drink...CaringGuy, please go get some help. It's hard enough dealing with this stuff on your own, having someone professional to get you through this will help so much.

[caring guy]

I have no type of closure & it eats away at my head, the why's & what did i do wrong's & how can you be like this after how we were!

That realy gets to me!

These thought are irrational, but i also think all she has to do is answer me & i'd be ok, just an email & all my brain pain would go.

cg

[whichwayisup]

I'm sorry that you're in this much pain. I know it hurts so much, especially when you don't get the closure you deserve. The thing is, you are going to have to make your own closure CG. Come to peace with it and just know that you tried your best in the relationship and it just didn't work out. It's not you, it's her! Once someone decides it's over - There isn't much the other person can do but accept the situation. Give her space and see maybe in time she will answer you, but for now it's not doing any good contacting her. The more you do that, the more she is going to run away.

 

Talk to your friends, family about it. Maybe going out with some buddies and having some fun will distract you for a little while.