jdiaz8785 Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Okay last March I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis at the age of 19 and it sucked. I had to change a lot of things because I was dealing with the sickness. My family was bad in the beginning because they would treat me like a slave. I never minded because I was the only one not working in the household so I was willing to help out in any way possible. Now after I was diagnosed things changed I was tired could not drive and was hard on my school work. My dad and mom helped out with everything they possibly could with which I am very happy. Now here comes the problem I live in my parents house with my older sister and she works full-time. I dropped out of school because I could not do anymore. When I dropped out my family quit helping me they will leave dishes in the sink and I am the only one who is supposed to do evrything. I clean vacum, do laundry, wash dishes, clean a bathroom that is not only me dirtying. Okay what I am pissed off at is that my sister has nothing absolutley wrong with her but she wont do anything in this house. She wont even donate financially to this house were I have gotten into loans to help my family pay for things. I am starting to get sick of doing everything and she does nothing. So me and my boyfriend have decided to see a good friend in NC as a vaction for him and me. I invited her so that I would not look like I was being mean or rude. Well she tells me no because she does not have any money and I tell her you dont need any money unless you want to drink or go out to clubs. She still says no because she has no money and I told our mutual good friend what she said. Now they are asking her to come and not worry about it because both I and they have said money was not a question. Well now she wants me to change my plans after asking her for weeks to go with me to not leave till 5pm. I am so pissed because I am bending over backwards for her and my family and her think I should bend over till I break for them. I am so tired physically and emotionally from my on **** on top of having to take care of 3 adults that act like children. I am so sick of bending over backwards for all these people and not getting any help in the return. Then what makes me even more upset is that my parents allow her to do nothing and all they keep saying is that she will learn when she moves out and I am so sick of that. She should learn now that we all need help in this house. I am back in school and fighting to get through this time and actually finish a semester but I am so sick of that crap. Please someone give me advice on this I need help on what I should do? Link to post Share on other sites
Milo Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 That is some harsh shiite. Sounds like you need a vacation from the family. And I hear you about the listless sibling not helping. I lived in a household with one of those. Annoying as all getout. Get out of there for a while when you can. ANd tell your parents where you stand in all of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdiaz8785 Posted January 25, 2006 Author Share Posted January 25, 2006 Thank god someone feels the way that I feel. I am actually going on vacation this weekend to go see my family friends this weekend. Now the issue is my sister is trying to come with me and my boyfriend but I told her if she wants to go with us then she will have to get out of wok because I am not waiting on her. It makes me mad because I invited her out of obligation and now at last minute she wants us to leave all late and wait for her. Hell no I aint. Link to post Share on other sites
princessbabydollface Posted January 25, 2006 Share Posted January 25, 2006 Hi there, I wish that I could tell you that this was normal, but truth is it is not, this sounds like it boils down to favortism, and this may have been this way before you were diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, the best thing I think you should do is sit down and talk woth your parents, and if they are too busy write a letter where they can't help but to find it and express your fellings DO NOT sugar coat anything, Even let your sister know how you feel about her and how you feel she does not help out, YOU may also want to look into some loans and grants to help you get out on your own to your own place if the problem persist, and if all of your efforts fail then talk with a councelor at school, a pastor at church, someone that can quietly make a difference, Hopes this helps you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jdiaz8785 Posted January 27, 2006 Author Share Posted January 27, 2006 I feel the same exact way for a long time now for maybe even years and it was all due to favoritism. In high school I would pull A's and B's and she would get C's and D's and the would tell her absolutely nothing. Yet if I got a C my parents would say that they expected more from me. How is that fair at all? I am actually in the process of trying to get accepted into a 4 year college that would force me to move away from home? Its so great that because I have MS and take Intra Muscular injections I would have to be on a waiting list for a place on the disability housing that my parents are going to pay for an apartment outside of school. Yeah and I am so happy because I will find out in Feburary and then I will be out of here but June yeah. Wish me luck because talking to them does not work they reverse everything and make it my fault so I refuse to keep trying to save a relationship with them I just want to get the hell out of dodge Link to post Share on other sites
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