brightskies Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 I recently met this guy, ML, and we hit it off: he's really smart, cute, treats me well, and we share similar values and interests. The one thing that threw me off a bit is he's shorter than me. I'm 5'7", and tend to look about 5'10" in my usual shoes. He's 5'6". Back when I was a lot younger and dumber (I'm in my early/mid 20s), I used to say there was no way I'd date a guy shorter than me. And until now everyone else I'd gone out with was at least 5'10". This is kind of out of my normal comfort zone. For example, I have really long fingers and my hands look longer than his. Is it really weird to think this is weird? But ML, has me intrigued. We're going out for our 3rd date on Wednesday. Thanks for any comments, advice, support. Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Well, the good news is that really there is not that profound a height difference. It is just that those heels really do a short guy in! So, if all other things fall into place it will probably be no big deal. Maybe you could interest him in a pair of cowboy boots:laugh: They really help a short guy out. Link to post Share on other sites
Lala7819 Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 My boyfriend is 5' 6" and I'm around 5'9"(that's with no shoes whatsoever.) I used to have a rule against short guys too, but I hardley noticed it after the first week. When I first met him, It was strange for me, but if the chemistry is right, you don't even notice it. I did have a bf who was 5'7" who was the same height as me for about a month (damn late growth spurts) then he was a couple inches shorter, and it bothered me way too much, but that's because half the time he wasn't acting like the man in the relationship, and that just made me notice the height and maturity differences in a magnified degree. So the short boyfriend rule doesn't even have to be noticeably thrown out, you may just find that it disappears later on, because you just don't notice it, or see any problem with it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 24, 2006 Author Share Posted January 24, 2006 Well, the good news is that really there is not that profound a height difference. It is just that those heels really do a short guy in! So, if all other things fall into place it will probably be no big deal. Maybe you could interest him in a pair of cowboy boots:laugh: They really help a short guy out. Well, he usually wears hiking boots which probably add an inch or so. and i've never seen him without shoes. For all I know he's really 5'5"! Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 24, 2006 Author Share Posted January 24, 2006 My boyfriend is 5' 6" and I'm around 5'9"(that's with no shoes whatsoever.) I used to have a rule against short guys too, but I hardley noticed it after the first week. When I first met him, It was strange for me, but if the chemistry is right, you don't even notice it. I did have a bf who was 5'7" who was the same height as me for about a month (damn late growth spurts) then he was a couple inches shorter, and it bothered me way too much, but that's because half the time he wasn't acting like the man in the relationship, and that just made me notice the height and maturity differences in a magnified degree. So the short boyfriend rule doesn't even have to be noticeably thrown out, you may just find that it disappears later on, because you just don't notice it, or see any problem with it anymore. I know what you mean about noticing the difference more if his masculinity/maturity were in question. Luckily, ML is all guy, and seemingly a pretty mature one. I think I can look past the height, but I definitely can't look past the masculinity/maturity factor. I guess when things work out well, after a while people looking at you funny when you're holding hands or whatever doesn't matter. Link to post Share on other sites
Tangerina Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Hehe, just don't say what my BF said to me: "You're short, but I love you anyways..." My boy will never live that down.... Link to post Share on other sites
Lala7819 Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Hehe, just don't say what my BF said to me: "You're short, but I love you anyways..." My boy will never live that down.... Well, my boyfriend calls my older sister (by 4 1/2 years) my 'Little sister' cause she is short. I always reply back "she's only a couple of inches shorter than you." It's never meant to be, or taken as an insult, and he usually just says back "well, I'm short too." and reverts to calling her my 'big' or 'older' sister after that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 24, 2006 Author Share Posted January 24, 2006 Hehe, just don't say what my BF said to me: "You're short, but I love you anyways..." My boy will never live that down.... Is that as bad as the ill-advised, "Yeah, you ARE fat"? Link to post Share on other sites
Tangerina Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Hehe, it is actually kind of endearing because I love his charming awkward thing... like he told me I was an anoerexic hippo once... and I was like WTF... so he explained that he meant it because hippos are cute (they are???) and I am cute but hippos are fat and I am not fat so I am cute and thin like an anoerexic hippo... I felt bad for laughing my arse off since he was trying to be sweet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 24, 2006 Author Share Posted January 24, 2006 Lucky you! He sounds like a sweetheart. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 I finally asked him straight out, "What's your height?," and he said, "Oh, 5'5" or 5'6". I haven't measured myself in a long time." I guess that means he's actually 5'5". Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 Um, I have a dumb and awkward question. If a person is small, does that mean their "equipment" tends to be small? Or, to be fair and not to put all the pressure on the guy, since I'm the taller one, would it mean that I might be "too large" for him? Is there any way to measure the insides of a woman? Sorry, I know this sounds silly. But I'm new to dating someone shorter. I know some taller men can be "smaller," so I hope shorter men can be "larger"? Argh. I know these are weird questions. But I'm really curious. And it's not like I can outright ask him. We'd both die from the embarrassment. Or he might hate me and never want to speak with me again. Link to post Share on other sites
slubberdegullion Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 There's absolutely no correlation between a man's height and package size. Nor is there any correlation between a woman's height and her, uh, holy of holies. I'm curious about something, brightskies. Why the angst about height? Why should it matter one way or another? Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 There's absolutely no correlation between a man's height and package size. Nor is there any correlation between a woman's height and her, uh, holy of holies. I'm curious about something, brightskies. Why the angst about height? Why should it matter one way or another? Holy of holies. Why the angst? That's a good question. I don't know why. Maybe it's some leftover hang-up from my childhood? Maybe I was socialized by the media to prefer a taller man? Maybe it's similar to how some men tend to prefer women with a 0.7 waist to hip ratio? Honestly, I'm not really sure. But I really like the guy, and am attracted to him. So, I'm still dating him. I'm just a little nervous I guess, since it's new for me. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I'm curious about something, brightskies. Why the angst about height? Why should it matter one way or another? I find this an interesting question from a man who is constantly writing about how overweight women are out of the question for himself. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 If you like him forget about the physicality. He's cute, he interests you? What is the issue? Don't get hung up on silly physical measurements. They are totally irrelevant. I am not 5'5", but it really doesnt make any difference. See the man in him, not his height. You will be happier for taking this attitude. The person exists in your mind. Link to post Share on other sites
RainyDayWoman Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 maybe the people in the other short man most will come here and read this and feel better. see? everything works out, look how many people, out of nowhere, date shorter guys. and i am glad they do, i just wouldn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 If you like him forget about the physicality. Don't get hung up on silly physical measurements. They are totally irrelevant. I am not 5'5", but it really doesnt make any difference. See the man in him, not his height. You will be happier for taking this attitude. The person exists in your mind. I agree. Now, wouldn't it be nice if guys could take the same attitude towards women's breast and butt measurements? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I agree. Now, wouldn't it be nice if guys could take the same attitude towards women's breast and butt measurements? I am as shallow as any other. Breasts less then C cup. Butt size less than my hands (I have big hands though!). I do not like any bust over C cup, and I prefer A, or secondarily B size. I am not a Pamela Anderson fan. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 see? everything works out, look how many people, out of nowhere, date shorter guys. and i am glad they do, i just wouldn't. Rainyday, Come to the dark side ... Link to post Share on other sites
RainyDayWoman Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Rainyday, Come to the dark side ... oh my god. you're funny. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 I have to be honest here ... I know I should just not say anything, I could not date a man shorter than me! I would feel like an amazon and I know I would get the urge to rest my elbow on his shoulder and rub his head with my knuckles! Mind you I have never been in that situation and I am sure(ish) I would not turn down my soul mate if he where a couple of inches shorter than me! Link to post Share on other sites
Author brightskies Posted January 30, 2006 Author Share Posted January 30, 2006 I could not date a man shorter than me! I would feel like an amazon and I know I would get the urge to rest my elbow on his shoulder and rub his head with my knuckles! Ah you crack me up! But if I ever do that I get the funny feeling that would be the last time he'll want to see me. Mind you I have never been in that situation and I am sure(ish) I would not turn down my soul mate if he where a couple of inches shorter than me! Yep, you never know where you'll find him. Link to post Share on other sites
Candied-Heart Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I am 5'7 barefoot. My BF is 5'11 and sometimes he dislikes that in heels I almost reach his height. He feels insecure as he feels it is "too short for a man". I don't care. I suppose if he were a good three inches shorter than me when I'm barefoot I'd probably have a different attitude [like most women would], but at the end of the day if he treats you right and has that somethin' somethin', who cares? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 17, 2006 Share Posted February 17, 2006 Hi everyone, I am also dating a guy who is shorter than me..not by much. I'm 5'7" maybe 5'8 or 5'9 with shoes..and he's probably 5'6" at all times haha. But I think we look cute together I just wish he was a little taller than me. I am one of those girls who always wants to date basketball players who are 6'0"and more. However, it doesnt hurt that his package makes up for his height...;-) Alana Link to post Share on other sites
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