Tony-Please read

[Lila]

"Should I let him go or profess my love?"

 

I acknowledge that I messed up, but I still think that if we have time apart, things can be resolved. I am willimg to wait and give him space b/c I care about him so much. Do you think there's a chance he might want me back in time?

[Tony T]

I know you're wanting me to give you good news. I frankly am not a psychic. On the face of this, I don't give it much of a chance. The reason is because of your consistent conduct in the past, your guy has no good reason to believe you have effected any meaningful and lasting changes in your behavior.

 

Things like this happen as a wake up call to make us better people. If you hadn't been so nasty to him on such a consistent basis, you would have had a better chance. You're used to getting lots of chances but once a person has had enough, sane people just move on.

 

For your sake, I hope this works out for you. Again, I can't foresee the future. Anything is possible. But if you don't make major and lasting changes in the way you treat people, I promise you're in for more of this type of thing.

 

You may want to see a counsellor to find out why you behave this way around people you care about. It's not really cool to be mean to people you want to have loving relationships with. I know a lot of people do this out of fear. It's a way for them to prevent true intimacy. A counsellor can help you sort this out.

 

I'm not trying to be mean here. I'm just telling you that actions have consequences and you are having to face the consequences.

 

And some fake Tony came in here a few minutes ago and said you should profess your love. That's not even a question here. This guy doesn't care whether you love him or not at this point. Love has nothing to do with it. He wants a peaceful, stable relationship with someone who will treat him right.