VONA13 Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Oh my god he's driving me crazy. So you've read my story and now its getting really bad, I'm not so sure if he's a sane person anymore. So I decided to have NC with him any longer because all he does is be nasty with me. This happened monday I ignored him completely throught out the day he sent me like 6 msgs to my mobile. So finally he got really upset I didn't respond and he went about saying how he doesn't want to deal with me and he had no love for me. How I made him feel miserable and so on. He was upset that he hadn't receive nothing from me. I cracked and texted him how I knew he did not love me and if he didn't want to deal with me not to talk to me. He fliped out. said I made him feel misserable. He said he loved me and thought I didn't care anymore he was apologizing to me on and on. How he wants to work things out with me. Then he sends me this e-mail and said "Hey i am so sorry about yesterday. I acted like a complete jerk. You mean the world to me and i wanna make it work with you. Well i need you more than ever and love you so much and i have been so out of it i have not showed you but will you give me the chance to show you. You really do make me happy. I love you. Will you give it a shot and a with me?" What the hell is he doing to me? So I called him because I'm so hurt and tired of hurting for him, he was very cold at first and began to just blame me for everything on and on and on. I'm was almost in tears but I didn't let him know. He was saying how I'm just not available for him but that he truly loves me and wants to work it out because he loves me and does want to marry me. I freaked out kept quiet again. He said he will always be in my life call me and see me and how he knows that I will always love him and he will never leave me alone. Now he wanted to get back together and I denied his request. So what does he want out of me? I'm so numb to his words and then I just want to cry. Is he lying? Why is he doing this to me? How can I tell him I don't want any contact with him because I hurt even more. He is being nice to me and sweet and acting like if nothing is wrong. Like if he didn't break up with me. And its killing me inside that he can treat me like s**t and tells me "he loves me" all in one night. I've ask for an explaination of why he treated me like crap but I get no answer. He is avoid the problem!! Am I stupid for still loving him? I need your advice please. Link to post Share on other sites
Tangerina Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 I have been through this, and my room mate is going through this right now. I truly am sorry, it really messes with your head, I know!!!!! Roomie and I have been talking about this a lot lately and we think it comes from the guy not really wanting to be in a relationship or be responsible for the relationship but freaking out when he realizes that leaving the relationship means losing the cushy emotional support and unconditional love/friendship that it gave them... like my room mate broke with her BF 2 months ago, but agreed to give it a second chance but he broke up with her this time but keeps calling every night and saying he loves her, etc... Sound familiar??? I was with a guy like this too, one day he brings me flowers and tells me he loves me so much lets get married some day, etc... and the next "I don't know how I feel about you or if I want to be with you..." I know it hurts to be in this situation, and it is scary as hell to think about walking away and losing the good times, but TRUST ME! You deserve better and you should move on and find someone who will love you every day.... Link to post Share on other sites
Geoffrey Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 I've been through the same crap....it's been 9 weeks now since my ex and I broke up. She cries everytime she sees me, then she ends up screaming at me on the phone about some thing that really has nothing to do with me. She is in a very dark place in her life right now, but hey...she's made her bed and she is lying in it. I'm trying not to let her get the best of me by manipulating my feelings, making me jealous of her new guy, etc. She realizes she's lost a LOT with me and all the little things I did for her, the good times, my kids, the laughter, etc. They can't have their cake and eat it too. Don't let 'em take you for a ride on the emotional roller coaster, that ride always ends up making me sick... Link to post Share on other sites
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