Emotions

[sheepie]

Do u ever experience happiness, anger and sadiness in one day? how do you feel? do u care the 'logic'behind your emotions?

 

Some ppl don't even know why they sad. But does it mean that there is no reasons behind our feelings? do u care?

 

Please tell me about your experience and how do 'feel'about it.

[Friend]

I think that emotions are not always logical. I think feeling and thinking are two seperate things. I also have felt all feelings in one day..sometimes over the same experience!! I have no idea how old you are, but, teenage years appear to be the worst for these things. I'm somewhat past that stage of life, but still have mixed emotions over things. I think these are normal unless they are excessive and you are harming yourself or others with these feelings. I have found that talking to my friends or family about my feelings usually help. I can generally sort them out better that way.

Do u ever experience happiness, anger and sadiness in one day? how do you feel? do u care the 'logic'behind your emotions? Some ppl don't even know why they sad. But does it mean that there is no reasons behind our feelings? do u care? Please tell me about your experience and how do 'feel'about it.

[Marzipan]

I feel all those in one day. I feel happy, sad and angry at different times during my day. Yes I care, it drives me crazy sometimes but I try not to let it bother me so much. I think a lot of my feelings come from the fact that my ex boyfriend who I dated for 8 years broke up with me two months ago. He cheated on me and then dumped me the next day to be with the girl he cheated with. At first I was devastated. I thought my life was over, then with the help from my friends and family I began to rebuild my life.

 

I try to take things one day at a time. At first I didn't want to allow myself to feel sad over this but I couldn't help myself. It was the end of my relationship and I was depressed and angry and anxious. Everyday I think about what happened at least once and it makes me a little sad, then sometimes I get very angry too. I try to be happy just being me, not a couple, not with somebody right now, just me. I think I get lonely and that leads to sadness and anger, so I try to hang out with friends a lot and talk about my feelings if I feel I need to. This helps. Some days are really great, I wake up happy and refreshed and although I think about things at least once a day, I am still okay with it because when I feel happier those feelings tend to pass faster.

 

Yes I feel happy one minute and then sad the next and even angry sometimes but with time the bad feelings begin to pass a lot faster and hurt less. I started taking some herbal supplements to help stimulate my moods also. I take St John's Wort and Kava Kava three times a day. These are two herbal supplements to promot a healthy feeling of well being and the Kava helps relax you. When you take them together, they can really help you relax and not focus so much on feeling bad.

 

For some people this combination of herbs helps a great deal, it doesn't suppress bad feelings or anything like that, it's more of a natural anti-depressant combined with a natural relaxant that can be found in your own body. I took it for about 3 weeks before it started to work. They say it takes time before it starts to work and it's true. You take 1 tablet of each herb about three times a day (usually after a meal) and after about three weeks you should see a difference in your mood. This helps you to gain better control of your bad/sad moods and even helps with sleeping and PMS. I slept better and I felt better after I started taking that. It's just a suggestion.

 

My experience was not good, I thought my boyfriend loved me and it turned out he was just comfortable in our relationship because he knew I would never leave him. So instead he cheated on me and then broke up with me. He was a coward. Instead of telling me how he really felt he did that and ruined any possibility of us remaining friends. After all that we had been through together in 8 years, I really thought I had seen it all with him. He never once cheated on me in all that time and then suddenly he stopped calling me, stopped wanting to talk to me and by the time I found out what was going on it was too late, he cheated on me with a girl he works with. He finally told me the truth a week after we broke up. He said he wanted to be with her and I knew that after that I would never talk to him again.

 

He could have done things differently and at least I could respect him and maybe not feel so betrayed. He chose to do what he did and I have to believe that he did that because he made a conscious decision to get me out of his life. He wanted to be friends but I can't handle that, not now, I don't know if ever. I didn't deserve to be treated that way, after 8 years of being with him and being best friends as well as lovers. I thought what we had was a good thing but I guess it wasn't good enough. I've had to take a step back and realize how unhappy I was the last two months of our relationship. It seemed like the harder I tried, the worse things got and the more he started to pull away from me.

 

I blame him for a lot of things, mostly for not being honest with me about his feelings and about cheating on me. He chose to do it that way and ultimately I had to accept that. If he truly loved me, he would never have done what he did and the only thing I can do now is go on with that. I have to use that to keep myself from still loving him even though he did what he did. I still love him and that's the hardest thing in the world to admit. He did so much damage and I still have some love for him and it makes me feel pathetic. I still miss him so much and can't believe that this is all real. Sometimes I have dreams about him and I get upset. Sometimes I feel like I will see him a few months from now and that he'll want to come back (wishful thinking). I can't shake that feeling at the moment. The way in which our break up went was so quick and harsh and painful that I have a hard time recognizing that he could do such a thing and not feel any pain right now.

 

I have thought about our relationship over the years and had to tell myself that it was all a lie. That it was worth nothing to him and that is why he did what he did. I was worth so little to him he could just cheat me out of the end of our relationship without even talking to me. So, I stopped talking to him completely. I lied to him and said that I would like to be friends but never called him after that. He tried to call me a few times and emailed me too after that but I never responded. I said I would like to be friends at the time because he owed me some money and I wanted to make sure he'd pay it back. And he did. Now, I don't want anything more to do with him.

 

It's been very painful. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. I've had to let him go. Although I miss him so much and I often feel so angry and sad, I know that this must have happened for a reason. I still feel optimistic about my life and that's something I never thought would happen. I try to remain positive and keep telling myself that all my feelngs of sadness and anger are natural in this process. Breaking up is hard to do. It just gets easier to handle with time. They say time heals all wounds and I happen to believe that.

 

I take things one day at a time. I'm not in such a rush anymore to keep up with anyone. The only person I am worrying about now is myself. I have a lot of friends and they have helped me tremendously in this. They helped me see that I have so much to give and so many great times in my life still ahead. Life is too short to keep dwelling on the past. Yes I am still getting over the break up and yes it's going to take time but I'm not going to let it destroy me.

 

That's how I feel. I hope that answers your question.

 

Marzipan

Do u ever experience happiness, anger and sadiness in one day? how do you feel? do u care the 'logic'behind your emotions? Some ppl don't even know why they sad. But does it mean that there is no reasons behind our feelings? do u care? Please tell me about your experience and how do 'feel'about it.