I have bf problem, help me!

[Gigi]

Lately my bf is very unhappy because business is no good. I know, because I am his secretary. Before, we always go out to have dinner and he takes me to his house to spend a weekend, but now he always says he is very busy and no mood to see me. Why? I know I can make him feel better, I cook for him, I give him massage and I love him, but sometimes he says rude things to me when I ask him whenever we can meet and have dinner after office hour

 

Is my bf still in love with me? I don't know, he is my second bf and my last one never gets angry in front of me, and I feel hurted because my bf doesn't want to see me and get angry all the time. I love him and I don't want to lose him.

 

What do I have to do?

[Taffy]

Lately my bf is very unhappy because business is no good. I know, because I am his secretary. Before, we always go out to have dinner and he takes me to his house to spend a weekend, but now he always says he is very busy and no mood to see me. Why? I know I can make him feel better, I cook for him, I give him massage and I love him, but sometimes he says rude things to me when I ask him whenever we can meet and have dinner after office hour Is my bf still in love with me? I don't know, he is my second bf and my last one never gets angry in front of me, and I feel hurted because my bf doesn't want to see me and get angry all the time. I love him and I don't want to lose him. What do I have to do?

 

My first question to you is. Is he married? If so, move on as fast as you can. You are wasteing your time and your love on him. If not, there is no excuse for someone to treat you the way he is because business is down.

 

I can tell by what you wrote that you love him alot but it takes two in a relationship. If he's not willing to treat you the same way you treat him than don't subject yourself to him rejecting you. They're plenty of men out their that would dearly love to have someone care for them like you do your bf and would treat you like you deserve.

 

Have cofidence in yourself and know that you deserve to be treated well. I hope things work out for you because I've been there and had to learn the hard way.

[BeenThere]

Sounds like he just needs a little space, Taffy. Especially if the two of you work so closely together. Of course, this doesn't excuse his rude remarks. Ever think of looking for employment elsewhere?

 

I don't usually respond to posts unless I've had some experience myself in the same situation. I'm replying to yours because I use to work with and for my husband. Sometimes its difficult to be "polite" to one another on the job front when work stresses are notorious for bringing out the WORST in all of us! And then there's no escape from all the "work talk" when you get home and neither of you has had a break. And I've also found that the respect we sometimes afford a fellow co-worker seems to be absent between two people who know each other so intimately...even if they are in love.

 

The best thing I did was to find a job elsewhere. It gave us both a chance to catch our breath and the personal space we both needed.

 

Hope things work out.

Lately my bf is very unhappy because business is no good. I know, because I am his secretary. Before, we always go out to have dinner and he takes me to his house to spend a weekend, but now he always says he is very busy and no mood to see me. Why? I know I can make him feel better, I cook for him, I give him massage and I love him, but sometimes he says rude things to me when I ask him whenever we can meet and have dinner after office hour Is my bf still in love with me? I don't know, he is my second bf and my last one never gets angry in front of me, and I feel hurted because my bf doesn't want to see me and get angry all the time. I love him and I don't want to lose him. What do I have to do?

[Marzipan]

I don't know if anyone can tell you whether or not he's still in love with you. It sounds like he's just very preoccupied with the whole work situation and is just too worried about it to deal with your relationship right now. I think that you should talk to him, probably some time when you two are alone and not at work. If he's avoiding seeing you at all outside of work then you really need to think about that and confront him as to what is going on. Ask him about his feelings for you and you will then find out if he is still in love with you or not. You won't know until you ask him yourself. Jumping to conclusions will only make you crazy, so talk to him before you make up your mind about doing anything else.

 

Also, it sounds like you may be around eachother a lot since you work together and all and that can get a bit old. What I mean by that is maybe you should take some time for yourself and see what happens when you don't talk to him outside of work for a day or two. Maybe he just needs time to himself to sort things out about work. I think you also need to think about what you want from him. Do you have a clearly defined relationship with him? By that I mean are you officially boyfriend and girlfriend? Because if not then you need to do some serious thinking about staying with him.

 

If he's angry and frustrated and taking it out on you when you are together then maybe you need to do some thinking about the way your relationship is going and if this has to do with what is going on at the office or if it is more to do with your relationship. It sounds like he's not being very sensitive to your feelings and he doesn't seem to care, that's not good for you.

 

I hope that helps.

Marz Lately my bf is very unhappy because business is no good. I know, because I am his secretary. Before, we always go out to have dinner and he takes me to his house to spend a weekend, but now he always says he is very busy and no mood to see me. Why? I know I can make him feel better, I cook for him, I give him massage and I love him, but sometimes he says rude things to me when I ask him whenever we can meet and have dinner after office hour Is my bf still in love with me? I don't know, he is my second bf and my last one never gets angry in front of me, and I feel hurted because my bf doesn't want to see me and get angry all the time. I love him and I don't want to lose him. What do I have to do?